Offended

September 24th, 2009

WYM promo series Watch Your Mouth! Offended Believers Statesboro 09-27-09

Watch Your Mouth! Have you ever heard that before? Maybe from your mom, maybe from your school teacher, maybe from the librarian? What about the Holy Spirit? Have you ever heard him whispering in your heart…”Watch your mouth.”

Ps 141:3 “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

What Do You Do When You’ve Been Offended?

We all have offended others and we all have been offended ourselves. The problem is offended people often times view the world through the tinted glassed of the offense. Offended people often times find themselves trapped in bitterness. Offended people will make bad life decisions, break off long lasting relationships, forsake family, and forsake church family all because they were offended.

Prov 18:19 An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel. (NIV)

God’s plan and purpose for their life is seriously hindered because they have allowed themselves to be offended or they have taken up the offense of another.

So What Do You Do When You’ve Been Offended?

1. Forgive the offender. – This is not an option it is a command from Christ Jesus.

Matt 6:14-15 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (NIV)

Col 3:12-13 … Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (NIV)

You need to forgive no matter if they repent or not, say they are sorry or not. If you are waiting for the offender to say that they are sorry before you forgive. That may never happen.

2. Confront the Offender.

You need to forgive the individual that hurt or offended you. Then you need to “go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.”

Matt 18:15-17 "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. (Lev 19:17) "But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.

"And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

3. Apply Luke 6:27-28.

Luke 6:27-28 "But I tell you who hear me: 1) Love your enemies, 2) do good to those who hate you, 3) bless those who curse you, 4)pray for those who mistreat you. (NIV)

What If You Get the Goods on Somebody and Find Out That They Are In Sin?

Apply Matt. 18:15-18 as well. If someone is in sin, what good does it do to tell someone else?

God is in the Restoration Business

Gal 6:1 “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.”

"There but by the grace of God go I." John Bradford

When I see the sins of others, adultery, divorce, sexual immorality, idolatry, greed, alcoholism, drug addiction, family problems, bankruptcy…"There but by the grace of God go I."

Instead of tearing down a fallen believer, try to restore the one in sin to fellowship with God.

They may have blind spots in certain areas of their lives. Your confronting them may be exactly what they need to awaken them to their problem so that they can be set free.

James 5:19-20 My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save him from death and cover over a multitude of sins. (NIV)

REMEMBER WE ARE A LIFE GIVING CHURCH. We are not looking to tear down and destroy, but like our Lord Jesus, we are in the restoration business.

Talking Up the Offence of Another

Prov 17:9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. (NIV)

Sharing your hurts and bitterness with your friends is another area that leads to problems. Your friends will tend to “take up the offense.” Later you may be restored with the one who hurt you, but your friends are still bitter. Now you have hurt your friends.

James 4:6 “But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

Notice God gives grace to the humiliated or we could say to the one who has been offended.

It doesn’t say God will give the same grace to the one who has “taken up the offense.”

Paul put it this way…

2 Cor 2:10-11 If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven– if there was anything to forgive– I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes. (NIV)

Dwelling Well in the House of the Lord

Ps 15:1-4 LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle? Who may dwell in Your holy hill? He who walks uprightly, and works righteousness, and speaks the truth in his heart; He who does not backbite with his tongue, nor does evil to his neighbor, nor does he take up a reproach against his friend… (NKJ)

I’m amazed how quickly we take sides when the “He said, She said” starts. Don’t be quick to take up an offense; don’t be quick to take up a reproach against you friends. When we are hurt by someone, the only person we have a right to go to with that hurt is God. If you are really at a loss and don’t know what to do then you should take your problem to a counselor not “your favorite person to talk to.”

A counselor is someone who is mature in the Lord, exhorts you to godliness and reconciliation, points out your sin in the situation, will not repeat the matter or be stumbled by it, and is seeking God’s will first and foremost-not yours. (A person like this is usually in a leadership role in your local church.)

The fastest way to divide a church and grieve the work of the Holy Spirit is with the words of your mouth!

Eph 4:29-32 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

Here is what you need to do if you have been offended:

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. GET RID OF IT!

Then:

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (NIV)

When you do that, the Holy Spirit will honor your obedience and do a complete healing work in your heart. Relationships will be reconciled and restored.

That’s right; everyone who attends gets a free “Watch Your Mouth” walking mouth to remind us of the importance of Watching Our Mouths.

Join us for “Foul Mouth” this Sunday at Believers Church 9:00 a.m. and 11:00 a.m. It’s going to be a great time, in the Lord, together that you don’t want to miss!

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Believers Statesboro 09-20-09

Watch Your Mouth! Have you ever heard that before? Maybe from your mom, maybe from your school teacher, maybe from the librarian? What about the Holy Spirit? Have you ever heard him whispering in your heart…”Watch your mouth.”

Ps 141:3 “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Last week we learned that our words are powerful and they can be used to destroy or to build up. They can bless or they can burn. James 3:5-6

The Apostle Paul as a Guest

Wouldn’t it be cool if the Apostle Paul would visit our church? I would hope that if he could, he would want to come and he would not be fearful about his visit. Yes fearful, you see Paul was fearful to visit the Corinthian church. He was afraid of what he might find them doing. (2 Cor 12:20 NIV)

I’m afraid that Paul would definitely find several of those sins of the mouth in most churches he would visit. Quarreling, outburst of anger, slander and of course the age old problem of gossip.

A Gossiping Mouth is a Foul Mouth.

What is Gossip?

Gossip can be a lie but gossip can also be the truth. Truth telling with the wrong motives is also gossip.

Melody Green defined gossip this way “Sharing anything about someone, when the act of sharing it, is not part of the solution of that person’s problem.”

God’s Feelings Toward a Foul Mouth

Romans chapter one describes people who God gave over to a depraved mind.

Rom 1:28-32 – Malice, They are gossips, slanderers, boastful, ruthless to name a few.

  • Proverbs 8:13 “The fear of the LORD is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.” (A perverted mouth.)
  • God commanded His people not to gossip. Lev 19:16 “You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of your neighbor: I am the LORD.”
  • Paul spoke against gossip. 1 Tim 5:13 “And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not.”
  • Three of the Seven things that are an abomination to God are sins of the mouth. Proverbs 6:16-19

An Age Old Problem

Paul’s fear. 2 Cor 12:20-21 Do you think that the disciples ever gossiped? Mark 9:33-35

Creative Gossip

Prayer Request Gossiper / I Love That Guy Gossiper / Bless Their Heart Gossiper

I Don’t Know When to Shut Up Gossiper / I Told the Truth Gossiper

Gossip is everywhere. You are going to notice when you walk out of here today that it literally is everywhere.

  • You turn on the television and they’ve got Talk Soup, Entertainment Tonight, Hard Copy, Current Affair.
  • Gossip is the driving force behind the scenes and the scandals in most TV shows.
  • News shows have gone way past report “nothing but the facts”. Now they have to gossip about everything that they perceive is going on.
  • You will hear gossip in your schools, gossip in the market place, gossip everywhere you go.  And then, there was like the local hometown gossip, right?

And so, gossip is all over the place: mobile phones, text messaging, Emails, Blogs, Myspace, Facebook and now Twitter so that you make sure people know your business so that they can continue to gossip.

Gossip happens in our homes. It happens with our neighbors. It happens at the office. Happens as we are driving down the road. It happens at accountability groups, and the list goes on and on and on. Gossip is all over the place.

The Results of Gossip

Prov 11:13 “A gossip (talebearer NKJ) betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” (NIV)

Prov 16:28 “A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.” (NIV)

Prov 18:8 “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.” (NIV)

Prov 26:20 “Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.” (NIV)

Ps 101:5 “Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy; the one who has a haughty look and a proud heart, him I will not endure.”

I’m Just Concerned and Listening to Gossip, I’m Not Spreading It

Proverbs 17:4 “A wicked man listens to evil lips; a liar pays attention to a malicious tongue.” (NIV)

1 Sam 24:9-10 And David said to Saul: "Why do you listen to the words of men who say, ‘Indeed David seeks harm’? "Look, this day your eyes have seen that the LORD delivered you today into my hand in the cave, and someone urged me to kill you. But my eye spared you, and I said, ‘I will not stretch out my hand against my lord, for he is the LORD’S anointed.’

Good question. “Why do you listen?” Break the chain by refusing to listen to gossip.

1 Cor 13:4-7

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (NIV)

Are you walking in love towards your brother or sister when you allow someone to speak evil of them?

When someone brings gossip to you why don’t you say gently but firmly:

“I’m sorry, but you’re telling me something I really don’t think I should be listening to. You need to take this to the Lord, and to those involved…not me.”

“Have you spoken to this person you are talking about concerning this situation? If you haven’t then you don’t need to be telling me.”

  • “If you have talked to them already are you willing for the three of us to sit down and talk this situation over together and resolve this problem?”

Prov 20:19 “A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much.” (NIV)

Prov 20:19 “He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips” (NKJ)

clip_image002Watch Your Mouth! Believers Statesboro 09-13-09

Watch Your Mouth! Have you ever heard that before? Maybe from your mom, maybe from your school teacher, maybe from the librarian? What about the Holy Spirit? Have you ever heard him whispering in your heart…”Watch your mouth.”

Ps 141:3 “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

The Bible has a lot to say about our mouths. Good and Bad. A deceitful mouth. Ps 5:9, A boastful mouth. Ps 12:3, A lying tongue. Ps 109:2, A perverted tongue. Prov 10:31-32 / Prov 17:20, An evil and malicious tongue. Prov 17:4, A sly (back biting) tongue. Prov 25:23, Mouths that speak too many words. Eccl 6:11 But there is also a: A healing tongue. Prov 15:4 / Prov 12:18 , A gentle tongue. Prov 25:15, Our words can give light and understand. Ps 119:130, Pleasant words. Prov 16:24, Gracious words. Eccl 10:12, Our use of words prove our wisdom. Prov 17:27-28, Quite and wise words will heed. Eccl 9:17

Watch Your Mouth Because You are Accountable for Your Words

Matt 12:36-37 But I tell you that men will have to give account on the Day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. (NIV)

Watch Your Mouth Because In Your Words are the Power of Life and Death

Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Watch Your Mouth Because Your Words Are a Showcase of Your Heart

Luke 6:45 The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. (NIV)

Titus 2:7-8 In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity,

Seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us. (NIV)

Watch Your Mouth or Your Religion May Be in Vain

James 1:26 If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. (NIV)

Watch Your Mouth Showing Your Maturity

Matt 5:37, 4-45 "But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one…. "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, (Rom. 12:44) do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, "that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.

Watch Your Mouth To Be a Perfect Man or Woman

James 3:2 We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.

The one sin that strips the church of power, and the power of God from above, the power of her testimony around the world and within the community is the sin of an uncontrolled tongue.[1]

THREE EXAMPLES 1)The Bit – James 3:3 The tongue controls and drives our lives like a bit does a strong steed. 2) The Rudder – James 3:4 The small rudder of a ship can turn it and drive its direction just like our tongue can turn, drive, and control our lives as well. How many times have you ever said something that you wish you had not and your words turn or change the whole situation or environment?

3) A Fire – James 3:5-8 The tongue can literally ruin somebody’s life and the generations that come after that.

The tongue leaves a path of destruction.

  • Who are the people that have been hurt by your words?
  • Maybe you’ve destroyed someone’s character, or just hurt their feelings.
  • The Holy Spirit is pressing in on you and He is saying, “Remember.”

Maybe you are the one who’s been charred by someone else’s words.

  • I want you to know that God loves you so much. He knows how fragile your heart is, He cares about you, and He deeply wants to take His healing ointment and just drop it into your wounds and bring healing to your life.

So, how do we move on from here?

The tongue leaves this path of destruction. How do we change things? How do we raise the bar spiritually? How do we say, “Okay, I am not going to live my life like that anymore,” and, “I want to move forward and I want to change the way I live life. I want to change this for my wife and my kids.” How do you begin to do that?

  1. Stop talking about people and let’s start talking to people.

Eph 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (NIV)

Don’t miss the last part of that verse, “Building others up,”…“According to their needs.”

“What are this person’s needs?” Ask these questions. Who are they? And how has God designed them?

Then we can intentionally begin to craft our words to speak into their life words that will build them up and not tear them down.

What God is saying is, let’s stop talking about people and let’s start talking to people.

  1. Clean up the destruction by asking forgiveness .

Matt 5:23-25 Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift… (NIV)

Because of you not watching your mouth, you have created a relational chasm between you and somebody else, Jesus says, “Go to them and fix it.”

The greatest part about this story is He’s talking about it within the context of worship. We just finished a series on worship called “Worth-ship” and He’s saying:

· “If you are worshiping Me,” maybe you are driving down the road listening in your car, and all of a sudden, you remember, “I’ve got conflicts here because of something that I said to someone.” He’s saying, “Turn the music off. I’m not interested in your worship. Turn your car around and go to that person, and once you begin to talk to them and bring reconciliation to the relationship, He says, “Come back and worship Me.”

· You are sitting in a worship service. God’s moving. All of a sudden, the Holy Spirit begins to press in and brings this name to your mind. He’s saying, “Leave. Go. Go fix it.” Because the heart of God, the passion of God, is reconciliation. “Who is that person that you need to reconcile with?”

Who have you left in your path of destruction?

Who must you ask for forgiveness? Take action today!


[1] Dr. Johnny M. Hunt, The Book of James, (Woodstock GA, 3H Publishers, 2003), p.69

Children’s Christmas Musical

September 1st, 2009

Calling all Kids!  This Wednesday Night at Believers Statesboro we begin preparing for our Children’s Christmas Musical "Legacy of Love"!

This is a very fun and exciting musical that we will all enjoy.  Not only will we practice on Wednesday Nights but we have Bible Lessons and activities to go along with "Legacy of Love".

Kids, bring your parents too!  They will be studying Authentic Christianity as seen in the book of Romans beginning at 7:00 p.m. until 8:00 p.m.

Legacy of Love rehearsals begin at 6:45 p.m.

Legacy of Love

Water Baptism 09-06-09

September 1st, 2009

Water Baptism                                                                          You may or may not have been water baptized, but if you have not or you were baptized as a child and didn’t understand what you were doing, we would like to invite you to participate in a wonderful time of celebration of your new commitment to Christ.

On Sunday, September 6th, we are having Water Baptism in our 9:00 a.m. and 11:00 a.m. services. We are thankful for salvation and desire to proclaim that thankfulness to others through Water Baptism. As a child of God, it is important to follow Jesus’ example and be baptized in water. Baptism is an outward expression of what has already occurred in our heart and is the next step that Jesus asks us to take after salvation.

"He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned”

Mark 16:16.

“Then Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” Acts 2:38.

I highly encourage you to be water baptized. It will be a significant spiritual event in your life that you will treasure forever. Don’t let the devil rob you of this joy. As you make the decision to be baptized, we rejoice with you as you publicly declare, “I am now a new creation in Christ Jesus, the old has passed away and all things are new! I am now baptized into the Body of Christ Jesus. I am part of His family!”

Things you will need to bring with you to baptism:

  1. Shorts and a shirt that can get wet. We do not have baptism robes so do not wear thin or white garments that tend to show through when they become wet.
  2. Towel and any other toiletry you may need.
  3. Dry clothes to change into.
  4. Plastic bag for your wet clothes.
  5. As many family members and friends as possible.

If you desire to be baptized, please call the church office as soon as possible to verify which service you will be attending and to schedule an appointment to record your testimony.

Should you have any questions or need any additional information, please feel free to contact me here at the church at 681-1440.

Thank you and God bless you,

Pastor Scott Moore