Join us this Sunday, May 30h, at 9 and 11, for worship, baby dedications, communion, our 5th Sunday E-Plan offering,

and clip_image002The Family Channel – 1980’s The Cosbys  The Challenge of Keeping Your Marriage Alive

May 30, 2010 Believers Statesboro Adapted from Rob Wegner Granger Community Church

It’s easy to be young and in love. It’s easy to fall in love. But growing in love; that is amazing!

God’s plan for marriage is that we would grow in our love for one another.

Genesis 2:15, 18 -The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." God said, “It’s not good for man to be alone.” We are wired for relationships, love, and romance. No one has to teach you that.

Genesis 2:21-25 – So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

God’s Vision for Marriage Is Oneness.

Eph 5:21-33 …"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh…” (NIV)

The Power of Oneness

Eccl. 4:9-10 (NIV) “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

Oneness Begins With Covenant

Oneness begins with covenant love. Only the people who are in covenant relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ can have this power to walk in covenant love and oneness with their mate.

Covenant is a blood bond for life; it’s commitment on steroids. It is the first step to the great mystery of oneness. That is what we must build the foundations of our marriages on.

Oneness Requires a Leaving and Cleaving

In Ephesians 5:31, Paul quotes from Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (NIV)

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (KJV)

  • In order for this oneness to occur, there must be a leaving first!
  • Many marriages are in trouble today because there has never been a real breaking away from both sets of parents. Parents must release their children into God’s divine plan for them.

“The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them.”

Frank A. Clark

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Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (NKJ) Within the context, sex is a physical expression of the spiritual and emotional ties between married couples, where the two shall become one.

God’s vision for marriage is exuberant love!

Proverbs 5:18-19 – Rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Be exhilarated “- be exhilarated! -" with her love.

God’s vision for marriage is that you will be a blessing.

1 Peter 3:8-9 (MSG) (Appling this to marriage.) – Summing up: be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, and be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless – that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing.

Connectedness! Three main disconnect that will attack your marriage.

Disconnect #1: An Unhealthy Pace of Life.

Homework Assignment #1 Step One:

Arrange for a talk in an unrushed setting and ask, “How many of our ‘disconnects’ are caused by the pace of life?” Agree on a percentage.

Step Two: List two or three practical ways to declare war on your runaway pace.

A couple of ideas:

1. Date your mate. At least two times a month, be intentional about it. Schedule it and make it happen.

2. Take Twenty: The first twenty minutes you are home belongs to your spouse. If you can’t take the first twenty minutes, how about at least twenty minutes a day. The important thing is that you need to take some time to reconnect every day.

Disconnect #2: Covered Up Complaints.

Stored up grievances or hidden complaints. As these unresolved grievances go un-discussed and begin to store up. you will find yourself growing distant from one another.

Ephesians 4:15 – God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love – like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do.

Homework Assignment #2

Arrange a talk in an unrushed setting and open up a conversation about covered up complaints, even if you have told me before and I didn’t listen.

· Some of you will need to set down with some wise and trusted friends.

· Others of you will need to set down with a counselor.

Disconnect #3: Forgetting To Have Fun Together.

What fun things do you do with your spouse?

Proverbs 5:18-19 – Rejoice in wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Be exhilarated “- be exhilarated! -" with her love.

What exhilarates you?

Homework Assignment #3

Find common interests and passions and engage in them.

Marriage is hard work. Keeping you marriage alive is hard work, but it’s worth it!

Remember, falling in love is wonderful. But growing in love is amazing!

This is God’s plan for marriage. That we would grow in our love for one another.

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Genesis 2:4-25 Monday Song of Songs 1 and 2

Tuesday Song of Songs 3 and 4 Wednesday Song of Songs 5 and 6

Thursday Song of Songs 7 and 8 Friday 1 Corinthians 7:1-16

Saturday Ephesians 5:22-33

Discussion Guides available at believersstatesboro.com.

The Family Channel 1970’s: The Bradys – The Challenge of the Blended Family

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Adapted from Mark Beeson Granger Community Church

 

Success in the blended family is just like success in marriage, but with hurts and kids added.

Everyone that goes into a blended family has a hurt and a wound that they will be bring to the table.

There is a sense of loss, hurt, and disappointment in love that can cause a real challenge in a second marriage, but now you are adding kids to the equation. The children have hurts and wounds they are bringing with them as well. The blended family is a challenge!

1 Corinthians 7:28 (Living) – If you men decide to go ahead anyway and get married now, it is all right; and if a girl gets married in times like these, it is no sin.

However, marriage will bring extra problems that I wish you didn’t have to face right now.

It actually easier and simpler to be alone and single than it is to be married. Of course, Paul said that it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Date for a while! See a few seasons change together before you get married. Take some time!

Success in the blended family is more likely when you have agreement.

Agree on Your Core Commitments.

Amos 3:3 – Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?

i. Agree On Jesus (FAITH).

This doesn’t mean that you have to be at the same maturity level in your Christian walk, but you must both be believers. Do both agree on Jesus? What do you think about Jesus? Who is Jesus to you?

Matthew 16:14-18 (Living) – When Jesus came to Caesarea Philippi, He asked his disciples, "Who are the people saying I am?"

14 "Well," they replied, "some say John the Baptist; some, Elijah; some, Jeremiah or one of the other prophets."

15 Then he asked them, "Who do you think I am?"

16 Simon Peter answered, "The Christ, the Messiah, the Son of the living God."

17 "God has blessed you, Simon, son of Jonah," Jesus said, "for my Father in heaven has personally revealed this to you–this is not from any human source.

18 You are Peter, a stone; and upon this rock I will build my church; and all the powers of hell shall not prevail against it.

John 10:10 – I have come that you might have life in all its abundance.

Jesus is a source of life for your marriage and family as well. Just like there are two plans for your life, there are two plans for your marriage and two plans for your family as well.

Matthew 6:33 – But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

ii. Agree On The Marriage.

Hebrews 13:4 (Living) – Honor your marriage and its vows, and be pure…

“The marriage relationship is the most important in any home, yet in a stepfamily, it is often the weakest (when the marriage begins). You and your children have a bond forged by blood; your marriage is an add-on relationship. Making the marriage a priority is critical to family success.

This means balancing time and energy between the children and the marriage. It also means modeling to your children that the marriage is unbreakable and that as a couple you lead together.”

– Ron L Deal, Building Your Stepfamily: Focus on the Family Magazine

iii. Agree On What Reality Looks Like.

"The first job of a leader is to define reality, last to say thank you and, in between, to be a debtor and a servant." — Max DuPree

“When a stepfamily is formed, the marriage includes more than the happy couple in love. Children are involved, as can be intrusive ex-spouses and/or painful histories with accompanying heartache. With all these dynamics in play, building a successful stepfamily can feel overwhelming. Yet, with faith, determination and God’s help, step-families can be places of warmth, love and belonging.”

– Ron L. Deal, Building Your Stepfamily: Focus on the Family Magazine

“One-parent families develop their own standards of conduct and methods of communicating. The longer parents and children are together, the more entrenched they are likely to become in their own unique culture. There is a special bond, a silent code, between single parents and their children that is closed to outsiders.”

– Taube Kaufman, The Combined Family: A Guide to Creating Successful Step-Relationships

One of the greatest areas that this reality will show up is in the area of discipline.

Proverbs 29:15 – To discipline and reprimand a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.

Ephesians 6:4 – And now a word to you fathers. Don’t make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord.

Success in the blended family is achieved through persistence.

It talks time and energy to make a blended family work. It takes a while, so be persistence.

Step-families are a long-term commitment. We are talking about a blended family not puree.

Too often, we want everything to be perfect, and we want it right now. So, we throw the kids into the blender, throw the adults into the blender and don’t hit the mix or chop button, but we hit the puree button.

We should blend, not puree. Think about the spatula and bowl with the ingredients. You have to blend it by hand and it takes time and effort. That is the key to a successful blended family.

It takes time, so be persistent and don’t give up. God will help you. Believers Church is committed to help you so that the marriage you are in right now works.

Let’s make this marriage work. We will do that together.

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Proverbs 3:1-12

Monday Matthew 12:46-50

Tuesday Proverbs 15:1-4

Wednesday Romans 8:12-17

Thursday Proverbs 29:11-18

Friday I Corinthians 12:12-27

Saturday Galatians 4:1-7

Discussion Guides for this series can be found at www.believersstatesboro.com.

Vision Dinner

May 17th, 2010

Believers Church will be having our Vision Dinner this Thursday night for all of our new attendees!

We would love to have you and your family for dinner. If you are able to attend please call the Church

and let us know at 681-1440 by Wednesday morning, or respond to this e-mail. Look forward to seeing you all!

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Thanks

Thank You,

Laura Smiley

Hello Church,

I just wanted to share some exciting news with you concerning “The Family Channel Series”.

With each weeks lesson we have Daily Bible reading available for you and your family that will continue to encourage you as you grow as a family. These verses will be listed in your weekly Sermon notes and may also be found on line at www.believersstatesboro.com. Just get on line and chick on “Audio Sermons” and you will find each sermon listed with two PDF Files. One of the PDF files will be the Daily Bible Readings.

Readings for this week:

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Proverbs 1:7-19   Thursday II Chronicles 10:1-19

Monday Genesis 9:18-29   Friday Psalm 3:1-8

Tuesday Luke 15:11-32     Saturday Genesis 45:1-15

Wednesday Luke 2:41-52

Also the second PDF file you will find on line is a weekly Discussion Guide for each sermon that was written by Granger Community Church. We encourage you to get together with you family, a friend, or your Life Group and discuss each topic together. This will tremendous enhance your learning experience as we go through this series together.

Looking forward to learning with you on THE FAMILY CHANNEL!

May 16 1960’s: The Cleavers – The Challenge of Parenting and Communication

May 23 1970’s: The Brady Bunch – The Challenge of the Blended Family

May 30 1980’s: The Cosbys – The Challenge of Keeping Your Marriage Alive

June 6 1990’s: The Simpsons – The Challenge of the Child-Centered Family

June 13 2000’s: The Osbournes – The Challenge of Your Imperfect Parents

Pastor Scott

believersstatesboro.com, 7059 Harville Road, 681-1440

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The Family Channel

May 14th, 2010

The Family Channel Five TV Families…Five Decades…Five Parenting Challenges

Consider this: your family on TV. Would it air as a drama? A documentary? A sitcom? Through the decades we’ve tuned in to television households for laughs, but sometimes it was really for relief from our own families.

We want to talk openly, but stuff just seems to get in the way. Conflict seems inevitable in any relationship, but every day? Defining roles seemed easy before the kids, but now the lines of independence, romance and control get blurred and confused. And, of course, we promised to never be like our parents, so we hate what we see in the mirror.

Flip the channel. Join us at Believers Church where we’ll experience music from each decade and tune in to what the Bible says about the relationships that matter most to us. Parenting has its challenges – let’s see how God approaThe Family Channel COVER SLIDEches them.

May 16 1960’s: The Cleavers The Challenge of Parenting and Communication

May 23 1970’s: The Brady Bunch The Challenge of the Blended Family

May 30 1980’s: The Cosbys The Challenge of Keeping Your Marriage Alive

June 6 1990’s: The Simpsons The Challenge of the Child-Centered Family

June 13 2000’s: The Osbournes The Challenge of Your Imperfect Parents

believersstatesboro.com., 7059 Harville Road, 681-1440

clip_image002This Sunday, May 9th (Mother’s Day), is the last day of our Rally Weeks that allow you to sign up for the Summer Life Group Session beginning 5-10-10.

We have several groups to choose from based on common interest or felt need. But, I want to highlight a Life Group that I have long been praying for it to be offered.

That Life Group is “Recovery” led by Raymond Scott on Monday Nights from   7:00 -8:00 p.m. at Believers Church. This is a group that we have needed for a long time. It is for individuals currently dealing with and /or recovering from addictions. Not only is it for the addict, but it is for family members who are affected by those who are addicted. This can be hard on a family, and we need to encourage and support each other as much as possible.

I am told that Raymond Scott is one of the best at dealing with such issues, and he comes highly qualified. He is trained, certified, and has worked at “Willingway” for eighteen years.  For more information, contact Raymond at 536-1553 or 489-8348.

We have prayed that God would lay it on someone’s heart to lead a “Recovery” group here at Believers. Now, that prayer has been answered. It is the time for you to step up to the plate and get the help and support that you need. The rewards will be abundant, and you will discover the love and support of a small group of friends that are dealing with what you are dealing with. Together, you will see better days!

Pastor Scott Moore

Ladies Tea this Saturday

May 5th, 2010

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Ladies join us for a special Ladies Tea this Mother’s Day weekend, Saturday, May 8th, from 10:00 a.m. – 12:00 noon.

Daughters are welcome as well.

Join in on the Hat Contest if you would like!

Hat Categories: Best Floral Hat, Craziest Hat, Most Creative Hat, Best Child’s Hat, and Best Overall Hat.

Contact Believers Church, 681-1440, for more information.