For Such A Time As This

June 24th, 2010

Outward Focused PIC 2 For Such A Time    Believers Church   06/27/10

Our direction this year at Believers Church is to be Outward Focused. In the Book of Esther, we see God’s providence upon Esther’s life and how He placed her in a specific place to do a specific work at a specific time. What has God called you to do in this day and time…“For such a time as this?”

At Believers Church, we believe that each of you have a unique God-given personality so that you can reach people for Jesus that others with different personalities can’t reach. In other words, God has custom designed you with your unique combination of personality, temperament, talents, and background. He wants to harness and use these in His mission to reach this messed up world.

Queen Esther was used by God to change the destiny of thousands. Could God use you to change the destiny of thousands?

The Circumstances Surrounding Esther’s Life Were Not Good

Esther had no parents. A male cousin raised her. Esther’s people were in captivity.

Do you realize that there are demonic forces assigned against our nation, our city, our church, our homes, and even against us as individuals?

John 10:10 “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”

When we make ourselves available to God to serve Him as best we can, we sometimes find ourselves in difficult situations, making it easy to wonder if God is still in control or if He has abandoned us. Yet, it’s true for us just like it was true for Esther. God had Esther positioned exactly where He needed her, at just the right time, in just the right place…“For such a time

as this.”

Esther wasn’t very talented.

What was Esther’s talent? She was beautiful. Yet, God used her beauty for His purposes. How can God use me? I’m not that talented. God uses beauty, wittiness, artistic ability, boldness, a flare for the dramatic, funniness, etc. You are valuable to God! There are others who can do a much better job than I can. There might be people that can do it better than you, but they aren’t here. They may not be willing to do it. You are the one that will say YES!

Why God Was Able To Use Queen Esther

She was under authority.

Esther 2:20 “But Esther had kept secret her family background and nationality just as Mordecai had told her to do, for she continued to follow Mordecai’s instructions as she had done when he was bringing her up.” (NIV)

She had divine favor.

Esther 2:9 “The girl pleased him and won his favor.” (NIV)

Esther 2:15 “And Esther won the favor of everyone who saw her.” (NIV)

Esther 2:17 “Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins” (NIV)

Esther 5:2 “The king saw Queen Esther standing in the court, she found favor in his sight.” (NKJ)

She had someone to speak into her life.

Esther 4:12-14

12 When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai,

13 he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape.

14 For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to royal position for such a time as this?” (NIV)

She had courage in the face of fear.

Esther 4:11 “All the king’s officials and the people of the royal provinces know that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned the king has but one law: that he be put to death.” (NIV) Courage is not the absence of fear. As matter of fact, you don’t need courage if there is no fear. Anytime you are stepping out in faith, you can expect fear to be present to keep you from doing what God has called you to do. While the average man or woman fears stepping out into a new opportunity as a world changer, your fear could cause you to miss out on a new opportunity!

She knew that her decisions would affect more people than herself.

Esther 4:14 “…but you and your father’s family will perish.” (NIV)

She recognized a defining moment in her life and didn’t keep silent.

Esther 4:14 “For if you remain silent at this time” (NIV)

Esther 7:3 “…If I have found favor with you, O king, and if it pleases your majesty, grant me my life– this is my petition. And spare my people– this is my request.” (NIV)

Esther could have kept silent. Silence would have been the same as saying “no” to her destiny.

Silence often speaks volumes about us.

She was surrounded by people willing to fast and pray for her destiny as well as their own.

Esther 4:16 “Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my maids will fast as you do…” (NIV) Who do you have fasting and praying with you for your destiny?

She didn’t have to survive.

She decided that she would rather “die right than to live wrong.”

Esther 4:16 “…When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.” (NIV)

Who Is The True Hero of The Book Of Esther

Is it Esther?

Esther 4:14 “Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

Is it Mordecai himself?

In the right place at the right time (Esther 2:21-23). His dynamic appeal to Esther (Esther 4:7-17).

What about Hegai, the Kings servant in charge of the women? He first noticed Esther and promoted her as the principal candidate for Queen (Esther 2:9).

The true hero of Purim is hidden, operating behind the scenes to deliver the Jewish people from certain destruction. The true hero is the Lord God! The book of Esther is the wonderful story of God’s faithfulness and ability to bring about His good for His people. However the name of God is never mentioned in this book. God was then and is still the great Orchestrator of events, and the footprints of His presence are so very apparent to the eye of faith. God is not absent from the events that direct our lives.

“The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, and He delights in his way.” Ps 37:23-25

“The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the LORD.” Proverbs 16:33 (NIV)

The story of Queen Esther reminds us that we are always in His sight and that He is guiding us by His invisible hand, placing us where He wants – for His glory and even for His good. The Lord puts the right people in the right places at just the right times to prevent the destruction of His people and to bring about His will and plans on this earth. We need to understand this so that we can fulfill our destiny with courage. “Great people are ready to help me in the right time, in the right ways, people I don’t even know yet.” We often use Romans 8:28 as a comfort during hard times, but notice that God uses “all things.”, i.e., good things, bad things, strange things, funny things, hard to understand things. He uses them all for His good and for our good.

Water Baptism this Sunday!

June 21st, 2010

Baptism June 27

If you have recently made a commitment to Christ Jesus, be it a first-time salvation, a recommitment or you just want to get some things right with you and God. We applaud your decision, and we encourage you to continue to surrender all to Christ Jesus.

You decision was between you and God, but now it’s time to go public with it. To get wet!

Sunday, June 27th, is a time for Water Baptism at Believers Church. You may or may not have been water baptized, but if you have not or you were baptized as a child and didn’t understand what you were doing, we would like to invite you to participate in a wonderful time of celebration of your new commitment to Christ. We are thankful for your salvation and your desire to proclaim that thankfulness to others through Water Baptism. As a child of God, it is important to follow Jesus’ example and be baptized in water. Baptism is an outward expression of what has already occurred in our heart and is the next step that Jesus asks us to take after salvation.

"He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned”

Mark 16:16.

“Then Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” Acts 2:38.

I highly encourage you to be water baptized. It will be a significant spiritual event in your life that you will treasure forever. Don’t let the devil rob you of this joy. As you make the decision to be baptized, we rejoice with you as you publicly declare, “I am now a new creation in Christ Jesus, the old has passed away and all things are new! I am now baptized into the Body of Christ Jesus. I am part of His family!”

Things you will need to bring with you to baptism:

  1. Shorts and a shirt that can get wet. We do not have baptism robes so do not wear thin or white garments that tend to show through when they become wet.
  2. Towel and any other toiletry you may need.
  3. Dry clothes to change into.
  4. Plastic bag for your wet clothes.
  5. As many family members and friends as possible.

If you desire to be baptized, please call the church office as soon as possible to verify which service, 9:00 a.m. or 11:00 a.m., that you would like to be baptized in. Or e-mail Pastor Scott at believersstatesboro.com.

Should you have any questions or need any additional information, please feel free to contact me here at the church at 681-1440.

Join us for a Father’s Day Blessing!  A special service to honor Dad’s on Father’s Day (Dad your kids have a sweet surprise for you Sunday)

Also included in the blessingLost In Space Light Background is a Fish Fry at Josh Hodges home on Tuesday Night.  Win a rod and reel and others fishing supplies!

Lost In Space Father’s Day 2010  Believers Statesboro 06-20-10

When I was a kid, one of my favorite shows was “Lost in Space”.

The Robinsons were an astronaut family. Accompanied by a military pilot and a robot, they set out to colonize Alpha Centauri from overpopulating the Earth. Their mission was immediately sabotaged by Dr. Zachary Smith, who slipped aboard their spaceship, Jupiter 2, and reprogrammed the robot to destroy the ship and crew. Dr. Smith was trapped aboard, saving himself by prematurely reviving the crew from suspended animation. The ship was saved, but the damage to the ship left them lost in space. You had to feel for the father, Dr. John Robinson. It was tough to be in his position. He was a father who not only wanted to be in control of and successful at his job, but also wanted to care for and protect his family. However, he was “Lost in Space”.

Maybe some of you fathers here today feel “Lost in Space” as well. Maybe your job or career is not going the way you planned it to go. Maybe you feel the pressure of caring for your family, but sense that you are not doing that great. Maybe you sense an evil agent trying to sabotage your life. And you don’t even have a robot to help you out.

As a father, you are expected to be the spiritual leader of your home. You are criticized if your children don’t meet everyone’s expectations. You probably dread a Father’s Day sermon because it’s usually a “you stinking guys” sermon telling you that you aren’t doing anything right. As a father, I am very aware of my lack of perfection.

Matt 5:48 “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (NIV)

Many fathers feel pressure to perform, to be perfect, and to have all the answers. As a father, sometimes you just feel like you are “Lost in Space”, much like David felt in Ps 73:22-28. I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Those who are far from you will perish; you destroy all who are unfaithful to you. But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign LORD my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds. (NIV)

Fathers, I want to encourage you today and give you a few suggestions that have helped me.

When You Feel Lost, Find God First.

Sure, it is great to find your way in all of the challenges of fatherhood, to figure out all the answers, but the first thing you need to find is God.

Jeremiah 29:11-14 (MSG)

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out – plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for. When you call on me, when you come and pray for me, I’ll listen. When you come looking for me, you’ll find me. Yes, when you get serious about finding me and want it more than anything else, I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed.”

You have heard it said that you can’t be a good father until you first learn to be a son. 2 Cor 6:18 "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty." (NIV)

When You Feel Lost, Partner With A New Commander.

“If God Is Your Partner, Make Your Plans Big!” D. L. Moody

Alone, I am weak. Partnering with God, I am strong.

2 Cor 12:9-10 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (NIV)

When You Feel Lost, Cast All Your Cares Upon Jesus.

Dads somehow become “Mr. Fix It” in their households. We pride ourselves in our ability to repair.

Then one day, you come to the point when you say, “I can’t do it anymore, I can’t fix it!”

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. (NIV)

When You Feel Lost, Follow Orders.

Ps 37:23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, and He delights in his way. (NKJ)

Why? Prov 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death. (NIV)

1 Cor 1:25 “For the foolishness of God is wiser than man’s wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man’s strength.” (NIV)

When You Feel Lost, Be Aware of Enemy Aliens.

John 10:10 “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” (NKJ)

Satan is a defeated foe, but we tend to play into his lies. We make choices according to Satan’s plan for our lives rather than Jesus’ plan for our life.

Resist!

1 Pet 5:8-9

8 Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. (NIV)

When You Feel Lost, Trust.

Proverbs 3:5-7

5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

6 in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

7 Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil. (NIV)

Trust in the Lord. Trust is a must. We all trust in something. …with all of your heart”—not some of your heart, not most of your heart.

Being a man, I think Solomon knew how tempting it was to compartmentalize our lives.

Recreational world / financial world / relational world / spiritual world / financial world

There, all of your heart…all of your compartments.

If you want to know God’s best, trust in the Lord with all of your heart. In Hebrew, “heart” refers to our emotions.

Self-reliance leads to self-deception, which ushers in self-destruction.

Solomon knew the danger of our feelings and emotions. So, we should not trust our hearts.

  • We should trust God with our hearts.
  • We should submit our hearts, our feelings, and our emotions to God.
  • We should let go of our heart and let God go with our heart.

Trust is a must.

VISION DINNER 6-25-10

June 17th, 2010

Vision Dinner

Friday, June 25, 2010, 6:30 p.m.

Childcare Available!

Join Pastor Scott, his wife, Janet, and the Believers Church Staff for our Vision Dinner!

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· Hear how Believers got started.

· Learn about our mission for furthering God’s Kingdom

· See how your family can get involved

This is a great time of Fellowship while getting to know the Believers Church Staff and other new attendees!

RSVP to 681-1440 by 6-22-10.

E-votional from 06-13-10

June 16th, 2010

The Family Channel 2000’s The Osbournes – The Challenge of Your Imperfect Parents

Believers Statesboro 06-13-10

Talk about dysfunctional families? The Osbourne’s are off the charts when it comes to being dysfunctional. Maybe you are suffering from “Imperfect Parents” as well. Some of you here today would like to take an axe to you family tree. If we looked up dysfunctional in the dictionary maybe we would see your family’s portrait. But the Osbournes they may make everyone’s family look normal.

There are no normal families. There are no perfect parents. Every family has problems, trouble, and skeletons in the closet. So if you are nervous about this topic today you can just relax.

There are no perfect marriages, there are no perfect parents and there are no perfect children.

But I want to remind you that God does have a divine order for our families, “Gods Posting System” (GPS) and as long as we live according to GPS we can expect Gods highest and best for our families. On the other hand when we get things out of order we can expect dsyfuntionality.

GOD’S POSITIONING SYSTEM

GPS God wants the best for the family. God knows the family is the structure. It’s the epicenter. But what do we do? We put kids first, marriage second and God third. We invert God’s flow chart. This inversion has become a perversion of what God wants in every single family unit.

God –Ephesians 5:1-2 Agree On Jesus (FAITH). This doesn’t mean that you have to be at the same maturity level in your Christian walk, but you must both be believers. Do both agree on Jesus? What do you think about Jesus? Who is Jesus to you?

Matthew 16:14-18 Who do you say Jesus is? The gates of hell cannot prevail over those who say Jesus is the Christ! Two people coming together from different paths can find common ground in Christ Jesus.

John 10:10 Just like there are two plans for your life, there are two plans for your marriage and two plans for your family as well.

Matthew 6:33 – But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Marriage – Ephesians 5:22; 25 (NIV)

Divorce Wouldn’t it be great if marriage always worked and never fell apart?

But, we live in a fallen world. Sin came in and brought with it this thing called “Divorce”.

Consider the following statistics from Divorce Magazine:

  • In the United States, 49% of marriages end in divorce. (65% for second marriages)
  • Although 82% of all married couples will reach their fifth wedding anniversary, only 52% will celebrate 15 years of marriage.
  • The median duration of first marriages that end in divorce is slightly less than eight years.

Malachi 2:16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel…" (NIV)

Why does God hate divorce?

1) Because God Has a Vision for Your Marriage

God’s Vision for Marriage Is Oneness. Eph 5:21-33

God’s vision for marriage is exuberant love! Proverbs 5:18-19

God’s vision for marriage is that you will be a blessing.1 Peter 3:8-9

2) Because God See’s the Hurt, Pain, and Results of Divorce

God see’s all of the hurt and pain the result from divorce not only to the broken couple but to their children as well. And if you are here today and you are divorced, God is saying I hate divorce. God is not God saying I hate you because you are divorced. No, He is saying I hate what divorce did to you. I hate it that you had to go through that. I hate the way it affects people.

The Tinted Glasses of Hurt and Pain

You have been hurt so you now view the world through the tinted glasses of hurt and pain and it distorts your vision. Forgiveness is the only way to remove the tinted glasses. Unforgiveness only hurts you more than the one who hurt you. Unforgiveness hurts other relationships in your life.

Divorced People Don’t Have to Wear the Scarlet Letter “D” of Shame on Their Chest

Jesus give a provision for Divorce. Matt 19:3-9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." (NIV)

What if my divorce was not because of unfaithfulness and I marry again? Well, Jesus described that as adultery. Adultery is listed among the “Sin List” of sins that we should put off.

Sin list: Gal 5:19-21; 1 Cor 6:9-10; Rev 21:8 sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery ,idolatry and witchcraft, drunkenness, orgies, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexual offenders, thieves, and drunkards.Also so included and just as wrong… hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish, envy, ambition, dissensions, factions, the cowardly, slanderers, swindlers, greedy, and liars.

So if you have sinned, what do you do? I Jn 1:9-10 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. (NKJ)

Prov 28:13 He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy. (NIV)

John 8:7-11 (The woman caught in adultery) … "He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first." …When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, "Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said to her, "Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more." (NKJ)

Shacking Up

Ok I know what I will do. In light of the almost 50 percent divorce rate and in light of my pain and sufferings from my parents’ divorce or as a result of my own painful past divorce, I just won’t get married. When I find someone I like we will just live together and that will solve all the problems. We are in love and that’s all that matters. Living together falls under the sin of fornication and for some adultery. And the same thing that applies for adultery and other sexually immoral sins applies to shacking up as well. You can be 100% forgiven. But in the case of shacking up you must apply Jesus’ words. “Go and sin no more.” If the person you are living with doesn’t love you enough to marry you, you need to move on. Covenant Love and oneness is what God desires for you.

Children – Ephesians 6:1-3

The choice is a plain as it can get. Obey you parents. This is only right. Honor your father and mother and you will live well (be blessed) and you will have a long good life. Or disobey and dishonor and pay the price. Possible not living well or blessed! The choice is yours. Functional of dysfunctional.

Imperfect Parents

Some of you didn’t have parents that loved God. You struggled as a result of decisions they made. You carried baggage, hurts, and pain with you for years as result of choices you didn’t make. I want to encourage you today they you don’t have to live in bondage to the things your parents did or did not do to you. You can forgive them and move. Christ Jesus has set you free and who the Son of Man sets free is free indeed! But forgiveness is the key.

As a believing couple start a new legacy of serving the Lord, both you and your family. Josh 24:15 But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, … But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD." (NIV)

GOD’S POSITIONING SYSTEM

The choice is yours.

Functional or dysfunctional.

Parents your children will be proud of or parents your children will be ashamed of.

Families that will reflect the glory of Jesus or families that will bring shame it is name.

It’s all about choices. What will you decide?

Join us this Sunday 06-13-10, at Believers Statesboro, at 9 or 11 for our last decade in The Family Channel Series.  This week the 2000’s The Osbournes – The Challenge of Your Imperfect Parents  (Don’t miss it!  This one has some elements that will take you by surprise!) Special Song: "Daughters"

Talk about dysfunctional families? The Osbourne’s are off the charts when it comes to being dysfunctional. Maybe you are suffering from “Imperfect Parents” as well. Some of you here today would like to take an axe to you family tree. If we looked up dysfunctional in the dictionary maybe we would see your family’s portrait. But the Osbournes they may make everyone’s family look normal.

There are no normal families. There are no perfect parents. Every family has problems, trouble, and skeletons in the closet. So if you are nervous about this topic today you can just relax.

There are no perfect marriages, there are no perfect parents and there are no perfect children.

But I want to remind you that God does have a divine order for our families, “Gods Posting System” (GPS) and as long as we live according to GPS we can expect Gods highest and best for our families. On the other hand when we get things out of order we can expect dsyfuntionality.

GOD’S POSITIONING SYSTEM

God wants the best for the family. God knows the family is the structure. It’s the epicenter. But what do we do? We put kids first, marriage second and God third. We invert God’s flow chart. This inversion has become a perversion of what God wants in every single family unit.

GPS

GOD’S POSITIONING SYSTEM

The choice is yours.

Functional or dysfunctional.

Parents your children will be proud of or parents your children will be ashamed of.

Families that will reflect the glory of Jesus or families that will bring shame it is name.

It’s all about choices. What will you decide?

Believers Church Ministry Leaders and Life Group Leaders Leadership Meeting

Sunday, June 13th, 2010, 5:00 p.m.

Please make every effort to attend and let Pastor Scott know if you are unable to attend.

All Life Group Leaders are expected to attend; even you are not leading a Life Group this Session.

Topics to be covered:

· Vision Dinner Review

· “The Power of Friendship”

· Resonate

· “The More You Announce, the Less Is Heard”

o E-mail

o Web Page

o Facebook

· Weekly Reports and Follow Up

· Ministry Unity in Purpose As We Partner With Families

o Communication (Ex: Refrigerator Verses)

o Vision Casting

· Yearly Planning for 2011

· Upcoming Events

The Family Channel – 1990’s The Simpsons The Challenge of the Child-Centered Family

06-06-10 Believers Statesboro Adapted from Rob Wegner Granger Community Church

Parenting is easy right? You read a few books to tell you what to do, all your kids are the same, and what works for one works for all, right? Of course not. Parenting is challenging. Over time, we, as parents, find ourselves being led by the children instead of us leading them.

There are so many dynamics to parenting! You have such an awesome responsibility, and you are expected to get everything right! Suddenly, you find yourself struggling, experimenting, hoping, and wondering am I doing this right.

The Universal Remote

Parenting is like a big universal remote with a thousand buttons. It can be intimidating!

But how many buttons on the remote control do you really need? Really, all we need is two:

Button One – Channel: Tune in to the God Channel.

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· Nickelodeon – Child-center families.

· Spike TV – TV for men. It’s all about dad.

· Life Time – It’s all about mom.

Parents, you are the only ones who can change the channel in your house. You have the responsibility to change it to the God Channel.

The danger I see is that there are a lot of parents who are making their children exceedingly rich, but spiritually and relationally poor.

In the face of our culture, heed the timeless advice of Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (MSG) – “Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love Him with all that’s in you, love Him with all you’ve got! 6 Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you 7 and then get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. 8 Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; 9 inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates.” “Ok, we will pray before dinner and get them to church every once in a while.” Not enough! Where is the urgency in that?

Weave spiritual development into your child’s life. Vs 7 Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night.

Model Authenticity for Your Children Vs. 8 Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; 9 inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates.

Bring your children to Promiseland, Believing Kids, Merge, and Holy Culture.

Take advantage of God Time. You have got to find a way to make the Bible and prayer a part of your everyday home life. (Refrigerator Verses) (Study guides for this family series.)

Ask yourself, “How can I help my kid take their step?” Ephesians 6:4 (NIV) – Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Button Two – Volume: Tune in the right balance of discipline and relationship.

Proverbs 23:13-14 – Don’t be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won’t kill them. A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death.

Proverbs 13:24 (NRSV) – Those who spare the rod hate their children, but those who love them are diligent to discipline them.

Psalm 23:1-4 (NRSV) -The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not want …He leads me in right paths for his name’s sake…your rod and your staff – they comfort me.

· Give them a clear statement on what you expect of them.

· Make sure the consequences of compliance and non-compliance are defined and consistent.

Galatians 6:5 (NAB) – For we are each responsible for our own conduct.

· We have a far greater responsibility to influence our children than we have to control our children. Parenting is about influencing, not controlling.

Homework Assignment: Parents, sit down this week with these notes and walk through them: How can we be more intentional about tuning our family into the God Channel?

• What do we need to do to keep our personal relationship with God tuned in?

• What do we need to do to keep our marriage relationship a priority?

• Talk about each of your children and ask: “What is their next step toward Christ?”

• How can we help them?

• Talk about how to better weave the Scriptures and prayer into your family’s daily life.

• Pray and ask God to give you eyes to see those teachable moments.

How can we tune into a better balance of relationship and discipline?

• Where are we on “control vs influence”?

• Where should we be based on the age and development of our children?

• How well have we communicated expectations? What behaviors do we need to work on?

• How well have we communicated the rewards or consequences for compliance or non- compliance?

• How well are we doing at following through?

The 3 Types of Family Time • Logistics Time – Getting things done / • Connecting Time – What’s on your mind? What’s on your heart? / • Being Around Time – Parent is accessible/ interruptible

Six things to drop to be accessible:

1. Drop your voice. When your child is explosive, demanding, loud and needs immediate emotional first-aid, lower the volume of your voice.

2. Drop your body. Research about stress and early brain development shows that children relax when caregivers are physically on their level. Drop your body, and you will see your child relax and relate.

3. Drop your TV remote. When your child approaches you in an undemanding way and makes an observation or asks a question, seize the moment. Drop the remote or set down the paper. This is your chance to relate in a positive and meaningful way.

4. Drop your guard. Let your child take risks. Risks, that is, that are SAFE. Taking calculated risks is how we learn new skills.

5. Drop your defenses. Replace being defensive and judgmental about your child’s behavior with being curious and open to creative solutions. Also, drop your defenses when other adults blame, misunderstand, and shake their head about your child’s behavior. People like order, young children are often disorderly.

6. Drop your misconception that fun is frivolous. Good sensations and pleasure are neither an “extra” nor a reward; they are a necessity. Pleasurable, safe, social experiences can build your bond with the child and help you to learn to enjoy them immensely.

Daily Bible Readings

Monday Proverbs 22:6,15 Tuesday Ephesians 6:1-4

Wednesday Deuteronomy 6:4-8 Thursday Proverbs 23:12-14

Friday Matthew 12:25 Saturday Proverbs 24:3-4

Sunday 1Timothy 3:1-4

Discussion Guides available at believersstatesboro.com

Hello Believers Church Family!  As you all know we were planning a worship night this Friday, June 4th with special guest “One King”.

Their lead guitarist, Ron Hale, who attends Believers with his wife Dena, had emergency surgery Sunday and thus would be unable to perform.

Due to scheduling conflicts, we have had to postpone the worship night until September.

We apologize for the delay, but think it will be worth the wait when “One King” and Believers Church come together for an amazingly “Beautiful” night of worship!