In order to Make Love Last, we need to add Christ Jesus to our relationships and form a Love Triangle with Jesus in the center. How do we do that?

Be Like Jesus

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate,

but through being the right mate.” Barnett Brickner (A God Chaser)

Ephesians 5

1 Therefore be imitators of God as dear children.

2 And walk in love (God is Love, Make Love Last.), as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a

sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.

3 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is

fitting for saints;

4 neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.

5 For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes

upon the sons of disobedience.

7 Therefore do not be partakers with them.

Make Jesus Number One in Your Life

Ephesians 5

8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light

9 (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth),

10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord.

11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.

12 For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.

13 But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is


14 Therefore He says: "Awake, you who sleep, arise from the dead, and Christ will give you light."

15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise,

16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

17 Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

Encourage One Another to Be Like Jesus.

Ephesians 5

18 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,

19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord

“The key to a perfect marriage is not expecting perfection.” Unknown

Stop cursing your marriage. Stop speaking death into your marriage, rather speak life!

Ephesians 5

20 giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,

21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Why not be thankful for the people that God has placed in our lives.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22

Live By Jesus’ Organizational Chart

Found in the Book of Ephesians 5 and 6

1. God

Ephesians 5:1 “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children.” So, God is God. We’re not God. We’re God’s children. God is number one.

2. Marriage

Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (NIV)

3. Children

Behind the marriage, we have children. In third place, we have children.

Ephesians 6:1, “Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” “For this is right.”

Talk to Jesus Together

Matt 18:19-20 "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." (NIV)

When was the last time you prayed together?

Next Step: At least three times this week, take time to pray together as a couple.

Serve Jesus Together

Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction.

Antoine De Saint-Exupery

There is something good that happens in marriage as we reach out to others as a team. There is a new sense of love and purpose within us when we weren’t just created for each other, but we were created for a purpose to be fulfilled together.

What area or ministry in the church are you serving together?

Next Step: As a couple, volunteer for “First Serve” together in a ministry for 30 days.

One Hour on Wednesday 2/23/2011

February 23rd, 2011

Believers Church join us tonight for One Hour on Wednesday as we continue our study in 1 Corinthians! Believing Kids and Merge will meet at 7:00! Bring the whole family as we pray and worship together.

Come to Wednesday night worship and receive an awesome boost to your week. See you tonight, God bless!


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MAKING LOVE LAST – WEEK 3 “The Expectation Trap” Believers Statesboro 02-20-11

Adapted from Rob Wegner


All of us have a little tag on us, and we all are like that beat up vehicle on the used car lot that’s marked “as is”. Like those clothes on the rack marked “slightly irregular”, it’s usually those slight irregularities that wear at the very fabric of the relationship. The question is how do we make love last through all of those slight irregularities?

Romans 15:5-7 (NLT) – May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other—each with the attitude of Christ Jesus toward the other. Then all of you
can join together with one voice, giving praise and glory to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. So accept each other just as Christ has accepted you; then God will be glorified.

We can fall into a TRAP that blocks and shuts down the flow of that “as is” kind of love.



You see, when you come to the altar, you have the rings, the flowers, a gown, and a tux, but you also bring with you a box of desires. Inside this box of desires, there are things that you want. Many of those desires are good and legitimate things. The problem is the “I” in the middle of the world desire. When desires go through the big fat “I”, they’re transformed from wonderful desires to demanding expectations.

What happens when 2 big “I’s” collide into each other? There are three different options.

Option #1: Depart

Option #2: Dominate

Option #3: Deal

How do you know if you have moved from desires to expectations? Here are three gauges to help you figure out almost instantly where you’re at on this spectrum.

Homework Assignment: Keep desires from moving to expectations by engaging in the following three exercises:

1. Daily Words of Gratitude

1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NRSV) …give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

Ephesians 5:20 (TLB) – Always give thanks for everything to our God and Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

2. Daily Acts of Service

Philippians 2:3-5 (NRSV) Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests
of others. Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus…

3. Daily Awareness of God’s Love For Me

Romans 5:7-8 (MSG) – We can understand someone dying for a
person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we
were of no use whatever to Him.

Romans 8:38-39 (MSG) – I’m absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between
us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus our Master has
embraced us.

God, help me to let You love me just as I am.

Discussion Questions:

1. Reread Romans 15:5-7. Who has best displayed to you the “as is” love of God? Describe what that experience is like. Try to tell a tangible story of what it looks like.

2. Of the three options listed previously in the notes, which one have you seen predominately in your circle of relationships?

3. Which one of those options do you think you might be most disposed to?

4. Over the last few weeks, we’ve been given a number of “homework” assignments. If you’ve attempted any of those, talk about your experience.

5. Describe how you might specifically apply expressions of gratitude and acts of service in a relationship this week.

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Psalm 143

Monday Acts 28:17-31

Tuesday Psalm 144

Wednesday Psalm 145

Thursday Psalm 146

Friday Psalm 147

Saturday Psalm 148-150

Hot Dog! Wednesday Night!

February 15th, 2011


HOT DOG! Wednesday Night!

Join us for a great family time tomorrow night, 02-16-11, at Believers Church of Statesboro.

The kids are out of school and yes, you deserve a break today. So we want to bless your family with a delicious Hotdog and chip dinner at 06:00 p.m.

The fun and family time will be followed by 1 Corinthians chapter 3 for High School and adults, and Believing Kids ages 0-5th grade, and Merge 6-8th grade. All this will begin at 7:00 p.m. and you will be out at 8:00 p.m.

With mustard on our breath we will discover metaphors from agriculture, architecture, and Judaism, as Paul delivers insight and warnings that define the proper roles of faithful servants.

I’m looking forward to seeing you!


Join us this Sunday at Believers at 9 or 11 for Week Two of “Making Love Last”.

Don’t forget to keep praying three times a day”

“God, help me to let You love me just as I am.”

MAKING LOVE LAST – WEEK 2 “The Art of Loving You More Than Myself” Believers Statesboro 02-13-11

Adapted from Rob Wegner

Philippians 2:3 (NIV) Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

Philippians 2:3 (NASB) – Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one

another as more important than yourselves.

Next Step: Once a day, every day, find one tangible way to broadcast this message: “You are more

Philippians 2:4 (NIV) Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Every interest will take your relationship one of two directions, integration or alienation.

Next Step: Choose Integration. Find one interest they have and invest in it.

Philippians 2:5-8 (NIV) Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very
nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death – even death on a cross!

Romans 9:25-28 -  Hosea put it well: I’ll call nobodies and make them somebodies; I’ll call the unloved

and make them beloved. In the place where they yelled out, “You’re nobody!” they’re calling you “God’s living children.” Isaiah maintained this same emphasis: If each grain of sand on the seashore were numbered

and the sum labeled “chosen of God”, they’d be numbers still, not names; salvation comes by personal

selection. God doesn’t count us; He calls us by name. Arithmetic is not His focus.

Discussion Questions:

1. If you tried the “next step” opportunities from last week (to read Phil 2:1-15 every day, to pray

“God, help me to let You love me, just as I am,” and the journaling exercise), summarize your experience.

· What discoveries did you make?

· What surprised you?

· What disappointed you?

· What gave you hope for making love last in the future?

2. Reread Philippians 2:1-15. Which verse stands out to you the most? Explain why.

3. What ramifications does that have in your relationships in terms of making love last?

4. “Regard others as more important than yourselves.”

· Try to think of someone who valued you this way. Describe who that person was and how they demonstrated that love to you.

· What is the one relationship in which you would like to broadcast that message?

· Take a minute and write down five or six ways you might do that this week. Share your list. Then, assign days to each idea and get busy.

5. “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others.”

· Again, recalling the primary relationship you are focusing on, make a list of interests the other person has and why you believe those interests matter to them. Share the list.

· Identify one of those interests and come up with a few ways to invest yourself in their interest. Pick one. Share that with the group.

6. Reflect back on Jesus’ new command, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

· Where does the love of God in Jesus seem most tangible to you?

· What do you think is the biggest obstacle to you letting God love you just as you are?

· Pray for each other regarding those obstacles.

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Acts 27: 1-12

Monday Psalm 140

Tuesday Acts 27:13-44

Wednesday Psalm 141

Thursday Acts 28:1-10

Friday Psalm 142

Saturday Acts 28:11-16

One Hour on Wednesday

February 9th, 2011

Join us tonight at Believers Church for a mid-week boost! Tonight Pastor Scott continues in 1 Corinthians, chapter 2, teaching about

God’s wisdom versus the wisdom of man.

Merge (Middle school ministry) will meet at 7pm!

Come and be blessed!



Choir Kick Off

February 8th, 2011

Hey guys. Easter is almost upon us, and that’s why we’re starting choir rehearsals. This is your chance to be apart of something really awesome. It is always amazing to see what God does in us and through us each year during our Choir Musical Productions. And this year is going to be better than ever. So join us for “Beautiful Exchange”. Our kick off party is this Sunday the 13th at 6:30 p.m. here at Believers. We’re going   to have some great food prepared by the one and only Keith Edenfield, and we’re also going to do some vision casting and explain what is going to happen during the musical.  We hope to see you all there!                                                        [Vimeo-11346375] A Beautiful E2_01530

Making Love Last

How do we stay CONNECTED to the people we love – whether we’re married or single or dating? Does real love still exist? Maybe we’re asking the wrong questions. Instead of wondering how to FIND the right person, what if we ask how to BECOME the right kind of person? We’ll spend four weeks wading through the FICTION to find the TRUTH.

Join us this Sunday, 02-06-11, 9:00 a.m. or 11:00 a.m. for “Love is a Verb”. I am so excited about the life changing potential in this series that, just this morning, I personally invited eleven people to attend. I have a few more folks that I want to invite this afternoon as well. Do you know anyone who could benefit from this series? Then give them a call, e-mail, or personal invitation to join you this Sunday.


Believers Statesboro 02-06-11

Adapted from Rob Wegner

Is happily ever after possible? Is it possible for two people to be happy together forever?

Falling in love is easy, but making love last, that’s an entirely different thing. A lot of us really haven’t seen it done first hand.

Proverbs 30:18-19 "There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a maiden. (NIV)

Making Love Last Question 1: What is love exactly?

Making Love Last Question 2: What is the objective reality of LOVE?

I John 4:7-8 – Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Making Love Last Question 3: What degree of alignment is there between what I call love and the objective reality of Love?

Making Love Last Question 4: What is the priority of love?

· I Corinthians 14:1 Follow the way of love…

· Ephesians 5:2 …live a life of love…

· I Corinthians 16:14 Do everything in love…

· I Timothy 1:5 The goal of our instruction is love…

· Galatians 5:6 …the only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.

· I Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply…

· I Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is


Making Love Last Question 5: How does Jesus teach us what real LOVE is?

John 13:34 – "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, (boom, there it is) so you must love one another.

I John 4:9-10 – This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. (NIV)

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (NIV)

Love is not a Noun. Most people think love is a noun. In other words, you have some kind of noun in your possession that will make me love you; a certain person, place, or thing.

Love is a Verb. But, what Jesus is showing us is that love is a verb, an action word, and the essence of real love is sacrifice. But, the objective reality of God’s love for you is giving. It is committed, it is lasting, it is unselfish, and it is unconditional. Love is a verb.

Making love last is an inside out deal.

Isaiah 64:6 – All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.

Making Love Last Question 6: What is the right kind of person?

The Myth of Finding the “Right” Person:
“If I can just find the “right person”, then I will fall in love and love will last.”

Choosing the right person is important, but being the right person is even more important.

Making Love Last Question 7: To what degree do I let God love me?

Two Next Steps:

 Read Philippians 2:1-15 once a day, every day this week.

 Pray this simple prayer three times a day, “God, help me to let You love me just as I am.”

Bonus Journal Exercise:

Reflect on how love was defined in the environment you grew up in. Jot down some descriptive words and short phrases. Compare that definition of love to the one you see reflected in Jesus in the Scriptures in your Believers Notes, Philippians 2, and I Corinthians 13.

Discussion Questions:

Making Love Last Question 1: What is love? How does our culture define love? How do you see that played out every day?

Making Love Last Question 2: What is the objective reality of LOVE? Do your best to describe the love of God as displayed in Jesus. What Scripture embodies that love best for you?

Making Love Last Question 3: What degree of alignment is there between what I call love and the objective reality of Love?

Making Love Last Question 4: What is the priority of love in your life? How do you think those closest to you would answer this question based on your current relational patterns?

Making Love Last Question 5: How does Jesus teach us what real LOVE is?

Pastor Scott talked about how making love last is an “inside out” deal. He debunked the myth of finding the “right” person. (“If I can just find the “right person”, then I will fall in love and love will last.”) He said, “Choosing the right person is important, but becoming the right person is even more important.”

Making Love Last Question 6: What is one step you can take this week to join God in being transformed into the right kind of person?

Making Love Last Question 7: To what degree do I let God love me?
Answer that question and talk about what keeps you from diving into the fullness of God’s love for you.

Daily Bible Readings

Sunday Philippians 2:1-15

Monday Philippians 2:1-15

Tuesday Philippians 2:1-15

Wednesday Philippians 2:1-15

Thursday Philippians 2:1-15

Friday Philippians 2:1-15

Saturday You get the idea…


Don’t miss the Valentines Premier Event of the Year!

The “Famous Couples” Valentine’s Banquet.

Saturday, 02-12-11, 6:30 p.m., Believes Church

Come dressed as a famous couple and you may win a prize for best dressed or just come as you are (because to the Lord you are a “Famous Couple”).

Only $25.00 per famous couple.


SUNDAY, 02-06-11

Hope you and your family will join us as we continue our study on 1 Corinthians tonight at 7 p.m.! 

Merge (Middle School Ministry) will meet tonight as well as Believing Kids!