Timothy

Join us this Wednesday for our weekly verse by verse Bible study. Pastor Dan will continue this great teaching in 1st Timothy. Bring your family, we have something for everyone. YOUTH will meet in the GARAGE for worship and study and Believing Kids and Promiseland will meet in the green, purple, blue and orange rooms for “Spring Training”!

Spring Training May 2

Words Sunday we wrapped up our Toxic Series with “Toxic Words”. Below are the notes from this sermon and you can go to http://believersstatesboro.com/home/online-sermons/ to listen or watch online. Don’t forget to join us this Sunday as we celebrate our 12 Year Anniversary with an Old Fashioned Picnic immediately after the 11 a.m. service! Bring a picnic lunch for your family and let’s have a great time together!

TOXIC WEEK 5 Toxic Words Believers Statesboro 04-28-13

Adapted from Craig Groeschel

“Sticks & stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.”

Words can hurt and words can build up. “Words are powerful!”

There is the flattering tongue (Ps.5:9), a proud tongue (Ps. 12:3; 73:9), a lying tongue (Ps.109:2; Prov. 6:17), a deceitful tongue (Ps. 120:2), a perverted tongue (Prov. 10:31; 17:20), a soothing tongue (Prov. 15:4), a healing tongue (Prov.12:18), a destructive tongue (Prov. 17:4), a mischievous and wicked tongue (Prov. 10:7), a soft tongue (Prov.25:15), a backbiting tongue (Prov.25:23).

Proverbs 18:20-21

20 From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied.

21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (NIV)

When God created the world, He spoke it into being. Words can create or words can destroy. Words can heal or words can hurt. Words can be life giving, or words can be life taking. Words are powerful!

TOXIC: ANYTHING CONTAINING POISONOUS MATERIAL CAPABLE OF CAUSING SICKNESS OR

EVEN DEATH.

It’s anything containing poisonous material capable of causing serious sickness or even death. In fact, if there’s anything today causing sickness of the soul, wouldn’t you agree that it’s hearing toxic words? In fact, words can be very healing or they can be a weapon.

Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (NIV)

They pierce like a sword, that’s toxic words. But here are the healing ones the Bible says:

Proverbs 15:4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, But there’s another type, the toxic tongue. …but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. (NIV)

Chances are many of you, if you look back over your life, you can find some different times when you heard some crushing words, or you were pierced with someone’s hurtful words, they were toxic.

Casual comments: EX: “What did you do to your hair?” “You better marry someone who can take care of you.” “Now, why aren’t you married yet?” “Still stuck in that one horse town, I see.” “Keep your day job!”

Pointed comments: EX: “I found someone else, I never loved you anyway!" "I hate you; you’re such a disappointment to me! I wish I never had you!” “Why can’t you be more like your brother or your sister?" "I’m leaving you, you’re nothing to me!" "You’re pathetic!" Words that crushed your spirit.

Life-giving words: "I believe in you!" "You are so special!" "I’m like proud of you; you are the best of the best!" "I can’t tell you how much I love you! I would marry you all over again!" "You are my dream husband!" "You are my dream wife!" "You knocked it out of the park today!" "You are so gifted!" "You are the answer to my prayer!" Life-giving words.

Proverbs 12:25 An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. (NIV)

Life-giving words, words can take life, or words can give life. They can be healing or they can be toxic.

WORDS OF WISDOM

• GUARD YOUR HEART AGAINST TOXIC WORDS.

Can’t control what others say, but you can control what you believe. Keep the poison out of your heart!

We can’t control what someone says to us or about us, but we can control what we meditate on and what we allow into our hearts.

Proverbs 4:20-23

20 My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words.

21 Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart;

22 for they are life to those who find them and health to a man’s whole body.

23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (NIV)

You are not who other people say you are, “You are who God says that you are!” Don’t listen to the toxic lies of the words!

ILL: Truth or Trash? Game

I’m here to tell you, people will say things that are hurtful over and over and over again, often those that you love and trust the most; but you are not who others say you are, you are who God says you are! Above all else, guard your heart against the toxic lies and words you may hear. We are talking about the words that you hear.

NEXT STEP: Guard my heart against toxic words.

  • SPEAK LIFE-GIVING WORDS TO OTHERS EVERY CHANCE YOU GET.

Commit to this because you’re going to be tempted to speak some toxic words. You’re fleshly nature is going to get angry sometimes, you are going to get your feelings hurt and you do not want to be one who spreads and unleashes toxic, hurtful words. You start by whenever you are about to speak something hurtful and you make a decision, I will only speak life-giving words.

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (NIV)

Anytime, every time, whenever you think something good, say it! Give life to it. Don’t hold it back, don’t rob the blessing! Say it! Text it! Write a note! Make a call! Email it! Or best of all look them in the face and you don’t rob them of the life-giving blessing. Speak life! Say what you need to say!

Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (NIV)

Marriage in trouble? Are you speaking toxic words or life giving words?

Kids acting out at home? Are you speaking toxic words or life giving words?

Problems with your parents? Are you speaking toxic words or life giving words?

Tension at work? Are you speaking toxic words or life giving words?

Proverbs 10:19-21

19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.

20 The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value.

21 The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment. (NIV)

NEXT STEP: Speak Life Giving Words to others every chance I get.

• SPEAK LIFE-GIVING WORDS TO YOURSELF AND TO YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES.

Self-talk. This goes hand and hand with Toxic thoughts. Not only are you thinking negative thoughts about yourself, but you are speaking it as well.

EX: Average person talks to himself or herself about 50,000 times a day. 80% is negative.

I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “People don’t like me.”

Remember, all you have to do is AGREE with what the Word of God says about you.

Proverbs 13:2-3

2 From the fruit of his lips a man enjoys good things, but the unfaithful have a craving for violence.

3 He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin. (NIV)

What about circumstances in your life? Let’s see what Jesus believes about our words and faith!

Mark 11:23 "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him. (NIV)

Seasoned Pastor – "Don’t talk about your mountains", he’d say, "Tell your mountains about God!" Speak faith

to them.

David speaks to Goliath.

1 Sam 17:45-47

45 David said to the Philistine, "You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the LORD Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied.

46 This day the LORD will hand you over to me, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. Today I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds of the air and the beasts of the earth, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.

47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the LORD saves; for the battle is the LORD’s, and he will give all of you into our hands." (NIV)

Is that positive thinking and speaking or is that believing God and speaking His truth?

Align your words with God’s truth. You replace the toxic words with truth and by faith you speak them! You may not feel it, you keep speaking faith until you believe it!

  • My schedule is insane. I am equipped and gifted by God…
  • I’m just average. You are God’s workmanship, created in Christ
  • You are used goods… You are the righteousness of God…
  • You’ll never amount to anything… God has plans for me.
  • Always going to be miserable… Everything I need is God given and more than enough.
  • You’ll never make it… I have faith for this.

Matt 12:34-37

34 … For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.

35 The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.

36 But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

37 For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned." (NIV)

NEXT STEP: Speak Life Giving Words to myself and my circumstances.

You are not the sum total of others words, you are who God said you are! There is power in the tongue.

The words can give life or they can take life. We will be life-givers, not life-takers.

Anytime we think something good we are going to say it. We are going to speak words of life and we are going to watch as God does more than we could ever ask, think, or imagine.

Community Group or Family Devotional Questions

1. While you were growing up, did you hear more positive or negative words spoken to you? How did these words impact your life?

2. Read Proverbs 12:11-23, 18:21, 15:1-4, and James 3:3-12. These verses describe how powerful our words are and show both the positive and negative impact they can have.

How are toxic words infecting your life currently?

What type of words do you tend to speak most—toxic or life-giving? Explain.

Describe a time when you were encouraged and uplifted by the power of positive, live-giving words.

3. Read Proverbs 4:20-23 and Ephesians 4:22-32. These verses encourage to guard our hearts against toxic words and to speak life-giving words to others. You may not be able to stop toxic words from being spoken to you, but how can you guard your heart against toxic words?

Who do you need to start speaking more life-giving words to? How will you go about doing it?

Why do you think we tend to speak more toxic words than life-giving words even when we don’t intend to?

4. Read Mark 11:20-25 and Matthew 12:34-37. Jesus shows us in these verses the importance of speaking life-giving words to ourselves and our situation.

In which situations that you are currently enduring do you need to stop speaking toxic words to yourself?

Why do you think it is so important for us to speak life-giving words to ourselves and our situation?

Words When God created the world, He spoke it into being. Words can create or words can destroy. Words can heal or words can hurt. Words can be life giving, or words can be life taking.

Words are powerful!

TOXIC: ANYTHING CONTAINING POISONOUS MATERIAL CAPABLE OF CAUSING SICKNESS OR EVEN DEATH. ANYTHING-even words.

Proverbs 18:20-21

20 From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied.

21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (NIV)

Join us Sunday morning at 9 or 11 AM as we learn how to not only protect our hearts from Toxic Words but also to speak Life Giving Words to others and to ourselves.

 

NEXT WEEK: Believers 12 Year Anniversary Picnic! Pack a Picnic lunch to feed you and your family and join us immediately after the 11 AM service to celebrate! The Church will provide DRINKS, GAMES and MUSIC. You bring your family’s food, blankets, chairs, tents, umbrellas, etc… We are going to have a great time together. Also, you will get your ticket to join our church-wide evening at SPLASH IN THE BORO Water park, June 5th.

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12 Year Ann

It’s time for our Believers Church 12 Year Anniversary Celebration! Join us Sunday, May 5th immediately after the 11 AM service for an Old Fashioned Picnic! YOU bring enough food to feed your family along with any tents, umbrellas , chairs and blankets you need. The CHURCH will provide DRINKS, MUSIC and GAMES!

* Feel free to place the food you bring in the Welcome Center until after service however please write your name on your dishes, bags, etc…

In addition to our Picnic Celebration we will come together for a second celebration June 5th at Splash in the Boro Water Park! You will receive a ticket for you and your family at the picnic! We look forward to a day of celebration with our Believers’ families!

Timothy

 

Church organizational leadership is not sexy. No one in their right mind spends their free time looking at how churches structure themselves in their leadership charts. However, church leadership is incredibly important. Much of 1st Timothy is spent discussing who should lead the church and the expectations that are placed upon these leaders because they they lead and steward so much.

Last week we examined 1 Timothy 2:11-3:7 and saw who should serve as the senior leaders within the church, the Pastors, Elders and Overseers. This week we look at the deacons. Though there are few elders and pastors in every church, there always tends to be an army of deacons. These are the guys that assist the Pastors in their work and are the hands and feet of the local church. Believers Church is built upon an army of these deacons.

Who can be a deacon? What is expected of a deacon? We will answer all of these questions and more tonight. What is very interesting is that we will likely be speaking of a role you currently find yourself in or aspire to in the future.

See you this evening!

Pastor Dan Friesen

 

 

One Hour on Wednesday has something for the whole family! Youth meet in the GARAGE and Believing Kids & Promiseland continue with their “Spring Training” tonight!

Spring Training April 2

Relationships

TOXIC WEEK 4 Toxic Relationships Believers Statesboro 04-21-13

Adapted from Craig Groeschel

Listen or watch online at http://believersstatesboro.com/home/online-sermons/.

The people in your life can be your greatest spiritual asset, or they can be your worst spiritual curse. The people you surround yourself with can be a tremendous spiritual asset; who lift you, encourage you, and help equip you spiritually. The wrong people can be incredibly distracting and destructive and poisonous in your life if you are

not careful.

Toxic—anything containing poisonous material capable of causing sickness or even death.

Some people contain something very poisonous. The Bible calls it sin. Sin is capable of causing sickness or even spiritual death.

Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV)

2 Timothy 2:16-17 (NIV)

16 Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.

17 Their teaching will spread like gangrene.

Gangrene can start from just a simple, very small infection, and the blood or the life stops flowing to a part of the body and then that part of the body literally dies. Gangrene is a picture of what bad company can do; it’s a sickness that can destroy.

TOXIC COMPANY

1. THE CHRONICALLY NEGATIVE

Whenever you are with them, they drag you down. They are incredibly judgmental, they are critical, they are gossiping, they are complaining, nothing is ever good enough for them.

EX: OT Israel “If we could only go back into slavery, this is horrible!

2. THE CONTROLLER

Overbearing, demanding and manipulative. They might be abusive. They could use fear to intimidate you. Or perhaps you always feel guilty, ‘I have to do this so they don’t get mad at me!’

3. THE TEMPTER

This could be your boyfriend or girlfriend. This could be your party buddies. (Misery loves company)

Not just the “dirty sins”, it could be that you’ve got a tempting friend that is incredibly materialistic.

These relationships are toxic. They can take you away from God’s best and draw you into a lifestyle that could actually kill you or spiritually hurt you forever.

IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS, OUR GOAL IS ALWAYS TO MINISTER

But all of us, we can be toxic in our own ways. We are to minister to people, we are to bring life.

So, we have to stay spiritually healthy, so we can help people around us.

EX: Airplane oxygen bag drop. You have to help yourself first so that you can help others.

MANAGING TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

1) SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.

A boundary keeps the bad out and it keeps the good in. It’s not that the people are just horrible, just dangerous people, but there may be one part of the relationship that is dangerous to you, so you want to keep that out. “Oh, that doesn’t sound very Christian! Isn’t that the wrong thing to do? Shouldn’t we be loving?” Setting Boundaries is a Christ-like thing to do.

· Jesus would have times when He would pull away from people to spend time with God, to get strong with God, so He could go back and minister to those who needed Him.

· Jesus set boundaries with the Pharisees. ‘I’m not going there, I’m not listening to you, I’m not telling you everything, I’m keeping you at an arm’s length.

· He even had boundaries with His very closest friends whenever they tried to take Him away from doing something God wanted Him to do.

Matthew 16:23 Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” (NIV)

What Peter was saying was gangrene to Jesus! The enemy was working through Peter to get Jesus off of God’s path and plan.

So that you can minister to others, you will have to set some healthy boundaries at appropriate times.

Boundaries:

· I’m not going there with you.

Wherever “there” is. If you are doing something that’s not helpful and pulls me down rather than lifting me up, I don’t want to judge you, but I’m not going there with you.

You draw a healthy boundary because you are going to please God with your life. You are going to do the right thing and you are going to honor God! And God will honor your boundary.

· I’m not going to talk about that with you.

EX: A friend who always gossips. / Ladies, trashing their husbands. / Guys, your buddies talking about girls at the gym or work. "No! I’m not going to pollute my mind with that! Don’t say that to me!

You just draw a line in the sand and say, ‘Here is a boundary and we are not going to do that.’

· I won’t let you talk to me or treat me that way.

If someone continues to tear you down and doesn’t treat you with dignity, you need to set boundaries.

“I will not let you continue to talk to me like that. You will not continue to treat me that way.”

NEXT STEP: Pick at least one of your most toxic relationships and establish some healthy boundaries

What if someone does not respect the boundary? They continue to tempt, they continue to criticize, and they continue to abuse, they continue to poison?

2.) CUT OFF THE TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.

I am not talking about divorce. This is not a marriage issue. If you have a toxic marriage, it’s because both of you are toxic. There is sin. If there is sickness you go to a doctor, you go to a counselor, you go to your pastor, you go to your Life Group and you work through it.

I’m also not talking about divorcing your family. I’ve got to be honest; I think this is so sad to see how often a parent will say, ‘I’m writing my child off!’ Or to see a child, ‘I’m never speaking to my Dad again!’ No, in family you work through the pain, you work through it!

The only time you’re going to cut off is when there is a threat of extreme abuse and you are doing it for safety, nothing else.

Paul and Barnabas parting ways (Acts 15).
Paul and Barnabas disagreed about John Mark. And because of their disagreement, they couldn’t continue to minister effectively because they were disagreeing. So they just said, ‘Let’s go our separate ways.’ ‘You go minister there, I’ll go here.’ They parted and in the long run they were more effective.

Do not marry those who follow false gods (Deut 7).
God said, ‘Don’t go in and inter-marry with those who worship pagan gods. Stay away, cut it off, or you will get stuck in the toxic, false religions.

Avoid being unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:4).
In other words, don’t partner up with nonbelievers. You want to have as many non-Christian friends that you can have, as you minister to them. But you are not going to date them if you are a Christian, you are certainly not going to marry them if you are a Christian, you are not going to become partners in a business deal, because ultimately you should have very different values.

EX: She (Potiphar’s wife) caught him (Joseph) by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house. Genesis 39:12 (NIV)

Notice he didn’t say, ‘Oh well, obviously you have a spiritual challenge, may I sit down and hold hands with you and pray with you about this and ask the Lord to deliver you from your lust issues.’ He didn’t do that. He realized this is potential gangrene. This could be very, very dangerous and he cut off the relationship.

If someone continues to tear you down and push you morally, you break it off. I am separating from you, we are cutting this off.

Sounds harsh, but there are times when you need to do this.

The cut off should be a very, very rare thing for a Christian to do. It should be carefully and prayerfully thought through. But there are times when you have to draw a line in the sand and say I am not going to continue in

this relationship.

When you do so, you also do it from a very Christian perspective. It’s I love you; I’m always going to pray for you. I’m not bad-mouthing you, it’s just this is what we have to do to honor God. You never know how God might actually use this.

Why would you do this? So that you can keep yourself free from toxic. So that with strength and empowered by the power of the Holy Spirit, you can go full on into a toxic world and help those who are hurting.

NEXT STEP: Set boundaries on the toxic relationships in my life.

This isn’t a self-preservation, I’ve got to stay away from those dangerous people, this is an I’ve got to do what it takes to be so full of God that I can go and give His love to everyone who needs Him in the world.

But you will never be able to do that if you continue to let gangrene, let the bad company corrupt your

good character.

Community Group or Family Devotional Questions

1. Who are some of the most positive influences in your life? How have these people impacted you?

2. Read 1 Corinthians 15:33-34 and 2 Timothy 2:14-19. These verses encourage us to stay away from toxic relationships that can corrupt us. In what ways have toxic relationships polluted your life and your relationship with God?

3. “Bad company corrupts good character.” Describe a time when you experienced this warning in your own life. What did you learn from this experience?

4. What types of toxic relationships do you have more of in your life? Chronically negative, controllers, tempters, or some other category? Explain.

5. In what ways are you the “toxic company” in your relationships? Which toxic behaviors do you tend to exhibit the most in your relationships?

6. Read Matthew 16:21-23 and Genesis 39:1-12. These passages model how to set healthy boundaries in toxic

relationships and how to cut them off when they become too extreme. What types of healthy boundaries do

you need to establish in your relationships? How will you go about setting these boundaries?

6. Why do you think we tend to have more toxic relationships in our lives instead of healthy ones?

7. In what types of circumstances do you feel it would be necessary to end a toxic relationship?

8. What are some things you can do to build healthier relationships in your life?

Additional Next Steps

Here are some specific things you can do this week to help you deal with toxic relationships and build healthy ones:

We all have toxic relationships that need to be dealt with. Pick at least one of your most toxic relationships and establish some healthy boundaries that will protect you from that toxic influence or even become a Godly influence to that person. Take time to discuss these boundaries with that person and pray that God will use this time as an opportunity for you to minister to them.

Take time this week to work on further developing your most healthy relationships. You might consider doing something nice for them to show your appreciation of their friendship. Pray for them and ask God to continue to make this relationship something that is your greatest spiritual asset and pleasing to Him.

Talk It Over with God:

• Thank God for the healthy relationships in your life. Commit to God to work on deepening these relationships.

• Confess to God any toxic behaviors you are exhibiting in your relationships. Ask God to help you remove that sin from your life.

• Pray and ask God to guide you toward the best way to deal with the toxic relationships in your life.

• Commit to God that you will strive to become the greatest spiritual asset in the lives of your friends and family.

• Pray for those you know who are blind to a toxic relationship that is really leading them away from God’s best. Pray that God will guide them in dealing with that relationship.

TOXIC Relationships PIC

Toxic—anything containing poisonous material capable of causing sickness or even death.

The people in your life can be your greatest spiritual asset, or they can be your worst spiritual curse. The people you surround yourself with can be a tremendous spiritual asset; who lift you, encourage you, and help equip you spiritually. The wrong people can be incredibly distracting and destructive and poisonous in your life if you are not careful. Join us this Sunday at 9 or 11 AM. Come ready to learn how to protect yourself against Toxic Relationships!

Come On Guys!

April 18th, 2013

Looking forward to C.O.G. tonight at 6:30!

4-18 COG

One Hour on Wednesday @ 7 PM

April 16th, 2013

Timothy

Who should lead in the church? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Maybe you thought the person who should be leading should be you.

When Paul is speaking of who should lead the church he refers all the way back to the very beginning of the Bible and looks at creation and the created order. This is where we spent much of our time last week, setting up Paul’s case for who should serve as senior leaders within the church. This week we unpack it all and look at its literal implications. In addition to this, Paul gives us the expectations for those who serve as Pastors, Elders and Overseers.

Paul said it is a good thing for those who aspire to these roles, but it is a bad thing when the wrong people get put into them. This is the very reason the entire book of Timothy was being written in the first place, unqualified men somehow involved in leadership and were allowed to stay for far to long. The result was that false teachers arose and led some of the believers away. This week we examine the importance of have the right man in the right place!

 

YOUTH will meet in the GARAGE @ 7 PM!

 

Promiseland & Believing Kids!

Spring Training April 2

Vision Dinner 04-19-13

April 16th, 2013

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