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Every family is going to run into some conflict. As a family, we have enough opposition from outside sources as it is, therefore it is especially important as a family that when conflicts arise within the family, that they are resolved in a biblical matter with forgiveness and restoration as the goal.

In marriage and family life, the true indicator of success is how you process conflict. Join us Sunday morning at 9 or 11 AM as we discuss how to Biblically handle conflict.

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Sunday’s Sermon Notes. Week #2 of Fight For Family, “Family Talk”.

Listen or watch online at http://believersstatesboro.com/home/online-sermons/.

Nehemiah 4:14 After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, “Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.” (NIV)

One of the main things that every family is going to have to fight to maintain is good communication.

Sometimes we just need to sit down and have a good ole “Family Talk”.

  • 97% of couples who rate their communication as excellent are happily married.
  • 56% who rate their communication as poor still say they are happily married.

The poll concluded, “In an era of increasingly fragile marriages, a couple’s ability to communicate is the single most contributor to a stable marriage.”[i]

“There is no worse lie than a truth misunderstood…” William James

Differences in the Way Men and Women Communicate

  1. Men are hunters and women are hinters.

Wife to Husband: “What are you going to do today?” She is hinting. She doesn’t really care about what you are going to do. She is hinting about several things that she wants you to do for her.

For a man, it would be so much easier in life if women would just tell them what they want. Because men are wired to be hunters. Give us a list, room to work, and a time limit and we will go hunt, catch, or bring back whatever you ask of us. Then, we’ll report on it.

  1. Men are fixers and women are sensors.
  • Men are wired to solve and fix. We will analyze a situation, weigh the pros and the cons, formulate a game plan, and implement the plan. We think and communicate in black and white.
  • Women will think of the facts, but in their communication process they also consider emotions, intuition, and feelings. Women think and communicate in intense colors, shading, and depth.

EX: WIFE: “I’ve got a headache.” HUSBAND: “Did you take some aspirin?”

EX: WIFE: (Holding up a navy-blue dress with a white collar) “Look at this! I just got this dress cleaned, and there’s a gray stain all over the collar! I can’t believe it. What am I going do now? I was going to wear this dress tonight!”

HUSBAND: “Oh, honey, I don’t think anyone would even notice it. Besides, you could wear your yellow dress. It looks great.”

EX: WIFE: “You won’t believe the amount of work my boss is giving me. Listen to this….”

HUSBAND: “Honey, I keep telling you to talk to him about that.”

WIFE: “I know, but I’d like to have a feeling conversation right now. I just need to get this out.”

HUSBAND: “Okay, tell me about it.”

  1. Men are tight-lipped and women are talkers.

Men tend to internalize our communication.

Women need to verbalize the communication process.

Communication was an integral part of creation. God gave the gift of communication to the man and the woman so that they could build a relationship with each other.

Communication with our children works the same way.

Family Communication Strategies

  1. CHOOSE TO COMMUNICATE

You may have one spouse who won’t talk, you have the other spouse who won’t listen, and you are ready to give it up. God will help us even if we don’t know what to say, how to say it, or when to say it.

Exodus 4:10 Moses said to the LORD, "O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue." (NIV)

Exodus 4:11-12 The LORD said to him, "Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the LORD? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say."

How many times in marriage, especially the husbands here, do we kind of not really know what to say?

A Godly family is all about communication. First we have to communicate with God. Then He will teach us and help us communicate with our spouse and our children.

NEXT STEP: Choose to communicate with my family as God teaches and helps me.

  1. MAKE FAMILY TALK TIME
  • Is there a time when you and your spouse get together on a weekly basis?
  • Do you have an appointed time for family talks?
  • Not through Social, but I’m talking an appointed time and place where you and your spouse/children know that you are going to be meeting face-to-face, to communicate.

The Bible teaches us that God took time for us.

Galatians 4:4-5 But when the time had fully come, God sent forth his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those under the law, that we might receive the full rights as sons.

“The fullness of time” or “When the time had fully come,” means, “In God’s perfect timing.”

  • God took the time to communicate with us, to demonstrate His love for us, by sending His son Jesus.
  • God had time for us. Make time for talk time in your marriage and make time to talk to your kids.

NEXT STEP: Make time for Family Talk Time!

  1. GIVE YOUR FAMILY SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT

Do you know why many families stop communicating with each other? Because we are boring. It’s the same old conversations, in the same old places, and at the same old times. The key to a great marriage and the family communication is to jazz our marriage up and our family time up with a little creativity.

Creative communication starts with creative activities.

What are you doing in your marriage or with you family that causes creative activity that leads to

creative communications?

NEXT STEP: Do something with my family that is different, fun, and creative.

  1. COMPLIMENT, ENCOURAGE, AND PRAISE DAILY

This is the quickest way to show your spouse and your kids love and affection. Just give them praise, to verbally praise them. Their self-esteem and their self-worth just soar.

Praise Daily Proverbs 31:28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises

her: (NIV) “Arise.” When the children and the husband get up every day, they give her words of praise.

Praise Publicly Proverbs 31:31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at city gate. (NIV) “At the city gate.” The city gate was where commerce took place, that’s where politics was discussed, and that’s where everybody would get together as a community and talk. (Praise Privately and Publicly.)

NEXT STEP: Give a compliment and/or praise today!


[i] Reported in a Gallup Poll conducted between September 24 and October 9, 1988.

Community Group or Family Devotional Questions

1. Do you agree or disagree with the three statements: Men are hunters and women are hinters. / Men are fixers and women are sensors. / Men are tight-lipped and women are talkers.    Give examples.

2. What are some of the ways that you make the “Choice” to communicate with your family? How do you do it?

3. What things or actions have you taken to “Make Time” for Family Communication?

4. When it comes to family activities, how creative are you?

5. What are you doing in your marriage or with your family that causes creative activity that leads to

creative communications?

6. How often do you praise your family for the everyday things? How often do you praise them publicly?

Timothy

Join us for One Hour on Wednesday at 7 PM this week for our verse by verse Bible Study! This week we continue in 1st Timothy. Believing Kids and Youth will meet at the same time.

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Nehemiah 4:14 After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, “Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome,

and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.” (NIV)

Some People Will Be Angry About You Building A Godly Family

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What did Nehemiah and the Jews do when they experienced opposition? Nehemiah 4:13-16

Defend Your Family Against:

o Satan John 10:10

o Ungodly Media Influences Philippians 4:8

o Local and National Government that Opposes Godly Values

o Misdirected Marketplace Values

o Education Contrary to God’s Truth

o Busyness

o Extra Curricula Activities (ECA’s)

o Tiredness and Fatigue Nehemiah 4:6; Nehemiah 4:10-12

o A Lack of Family Communication Family Talk May 26th

o Conflict Within the Family Itself Let’s Get Ready to Rumble June 2nd

NEXT STEP: Identify any exposed places in my family that need defending. (Neh. 4:13)

Nehemiah 4:13 Therefore I stationed some of the people behind the lowest points of the wall at the exposed places, posting them by families, with their swords, spears and bows. (NIV)

Building Godly Families

Build Your Family With Prayer

Nehemiah 4:4;9 Families that pray together, stay together.

Hold Your Sword in One Hand and Your Tools in the Other

Neh 4:17-18 / Your sword is the Word of God! Eph 6:17; Heb 4:12; Ps 149:6 (NIV)

Your tools are resources that God has graciously made available to us as families. Training Camp June 16th

Find Support In Other Godly Families

Neh 4:19-20; Psalm 122:1 Tag Team June 9th

Never Stop Fighting For Your Family

Neh 4:6; Neh 4:21-23 Fight For Your Family 24/7!

NEXT STEP: Determine that I will build a Godly family and never stop fighting for my famiiy!

Joshua 24:15 “…choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

Community Group or Family Devotional Questions

1. Identify some of the attacks that you see on your family. What do you do to defend against them?

2. Do you ever experience any opposition or anger from others as you attempt to build a Godly family? Explain.

3. How have you built prayer into the fabric of your family and what does praying with your family do for you?

4. How do you use the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God in your family? What other tools have you found to be helpful?

5. In what ways do you find support in other Godly families? In what ways do you give support to other families?

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Nehemiah 4:14 After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, “Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.” (NIV)

Just like Nehemiah built the wall around Jerusalem, we are in the process of building our families. There has been, there is now, and will continue to be opposition to building a Godly family. When I read Nehemiah 4:14 I feel like the Lord is saying, “Fight For Your Family”.

This series is not about how to have a perfect family. This series is about how to fight for your family, by applying the principles in God’s Word. Truths that will help you have a Godly family, a family that forgives and grows more Christ like together, a family that strives to bring Christ Jesus Glory! Join us Sunday at 9 or 11 AM as we begin this five week series to encourage us to love and support one another in the building of our families and to “Fight For Family”!

Baptism May 26th

May 15th, 2013

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May 15th, 2013

Believing Kids and Promiseland honored their mom’s this past Sunday with this sweet card!

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Timothy

 

Come to Believers Church for One Hour on Wednesday as we continue our 1st Timothy study! Bring your whole family, Believing Kids will still be in “Sprint Training” as they celebrate “Pizza & Pennants”. They will eat Pizza and can come dressed in their PJ’s! Bring your Youth to the Garage for worship and study!

See you all on Wednesday!

 

Spring Training May 2

Listen or Watch online at http://believersstatesboro.com/home/online-sermons/

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The Good Life

Psalm 127 & Psalm 128

BLESSING & CURSE

Genesis 1:28; Genesis 3:16

The result of the curse for women is…

1. Desire to rule over husbands

2. Increased pain in child bearing (includes raising children as well)

HOW TO PREPARE TO BE A MOTHER

• Fear the Lord (Proverbs 9:10)

• Marry a righteous man

• Be homeward in your perspective

OBJECTIVES OF MOTHERHOOD

• Christ centered parenting (1 Corinthians 10:31)

• Guard and direct the child’s heart (Proverbs 22:15; Proverbs 4:23Psalm 51:6)

• Start children off on the right path (Proverbs 22:6; Proverbs 20:11)

DUTIES OF A MOM

• Provide unspoken instruction (Proverbs 31:16; Proverbs 31:21)

• Train children through their words (Proverbs 19:13)

• Provides good spoken instruction (Proverbs 31:26, Proverbs 1:8; Proverbs 6:20)

• Correct folly (Proverbs 22:6)

RESULT OF A MOTHER DOING NOTHING

Proverbs 11:29; 10:1; 17:25; 20:20 30:11; 19:26; 29:15; 30:17

Troubled kids, brings grief to mother, bitterness to mother, children who curse their parents, children who do not bless their mother, shame and disgrace upon the family name, child becomes a total disgrace.

NEXT STEP: Seek out the advice and council of some good mothers.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GOOD MOMS

Proverbs 31:28; 17:6; 23:22

Children bless their mother, mothers enjoy blissful relationship with their grandchildren, are cared for by the ones they love in their old age.

NEXT STEP: Take my mom out to eat this week if I can and tell her how thankful I am for her.

COMMUNITY GROUP QUESTIONS

1. Share one of our favorite memories that you have with your mom. What makes this memory so special for you?

2. Share one thing about how your mother raised you that you are thankful for. What is it about this one thing that causes you to be thankful?

3. When you look at the objectives to motherhood, what it the one thing that you feel you (moms) need to work on the most? Dads, when you look at the objectives, what is the one thing that you see your wife doing the best?

4. Is there any additional advise for those who are ready to be mothers that you and your group would like to share with those who are patiently waiting?

5. Close out the group time this week by praying for all the mom that are present.