05-31-15 PROMO

I Love Jesus!  Everybody loves Jesus!  Right?  Or at least we say we do!  In theory we do.  We realize we are supposed to love Jesus.  But do we really love Jesus?  Do we really have a relationship with Him?  Do we have a passion for Him, spending time with Him, loving what He loves, working beside Him, and actually wanting to be like Him? Join us this Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m. as we learn how to love Jesus as much as the Father does.

I Heart PARENTS

I  ♥ Parents     Believers Statesboro   05-24-15

Adapted from Craig Groeschel (Parenthood)

We Love Parents!  God chose in his infinite wisdom to set up the family structure with the parents in charge.  Parents are responsible to keep the house in order.  Let’s applaud all of our parents today!

Parents are the ones who make sure that their family is functioning according to God’s GPS.

GOD’S POSITIONING SYSTEM

God –Ephesians 5:1 “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children.”

Marriage –Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up

for her.”

Children –Ephesians 6:1“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”

GOD’s ORDER of GOVERNMENT

Self Government   Þ   Family Government   Þ   Church Government   Þ   Civil Government

DISCIPLINE

So as you can imagine, none of this order takes place without discipline.  As a matter of fact this is one of the reasons that we love parents, they brought discipline into our lives.

  • DISCIPLINE IS CORRECTION DRIVEN BY LOVE.

Hebrews 12:5-6 And you have forgotten that word of encouragement that addresses you as sons:

 “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, WHY?

6 because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.” (NIV)

 This is correction driven by love!

How important is discipline?

Prov 19:18 Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death. (NIV)

Parents, we need to understand that there is a major battle going on for who is going to be in charge in our households, and this is a battle that we must win for the parents!

If you find yourself consistently nagging and yelling and bribing and threatening, you are losing the battle and the tide must turn, and it must turn now.

“But I hate to discipline!”  “I don’t want to be mean to my children!”  “I hate doing that to them!”

Well, I don’t like to do it either, but think of it this way.

  • DISCIPLINE ISN’T SOMETHING YOU DO TO YOUR CHILD, BUT FOR YOUR CHILD.

“A child who has not been disciplined with love by his little world will be disciplined without love by the great big world.”  Zig Ziglar

 UNDISCIPLINED PARENTS

 

  • LIFEGUARD PARENTS: OFTEN RESCUE A CHILD FROM CONSEQUENCES.

 

A lifeguard parent rescues a child from consequences.  Little Johnny’s in trouble.  Super mom sweeps in to save the day.  “Oh, little Johnny, it’s going to be okay.  I’ll save you again!”

How do you know if you are a lifeguard parent?

Well, you are a lifeguard parent if you delivered little Johnny his lunch three or more times in the last semester because he forgot his lunch.  Now if little Johnny’s a sophomore in college, you’re the worst kind of lifeguard parent there is!

Lifeguard parenting is not allowing our children to face the consequences of their own sins.

Now, why is it so important to let them face their consequences?

Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. (NIV)

God set up the world with a system of consequences.  You live according to His Word and there will be blessings.  You live outside of the parameters of His Word, and there will be consequences.

This is a principle you want your kids to understand in small ways before it comes back to bit them in BIG ways!

Now this Galatians 6:7 can be applied in a positive way as well.  “You want a car?  You want nice things?”  Get a job and pay for it.  Hard work pays off!  You can sow into good things and reap good things!  You can sow into the spirit and reap of the spirit.

Your children must understand the principal of sowing and reaping!

Next Step:  Determine on a scale of 1-10 how much of a Rescue Parent are you?

 

  • ETCH-A-SKETCH PARENTS: OFTEN INCONSISTENT.

On an etch-a-sketch you can work and work and create something beautiful, but as soon as things get shaken up a little, all the hard work disappears!

A lot of us have drawn some lines in our households, and then, the next day, the lines move or disappear altogether.  And our kids are saying, “Where are the lines?  Where are the boundaries?”

We are inconsistent oftentimes as parents.

Prov 29:15; 17 The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.

17 Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul. (NIV)

Notice that it doesn’t say, discipline them today, but maybe not tomorrow.  Correct them today, unless you are tired and worn out, then it’s better to just let things slide.

Draw clear lines and set boundaries for your children, but as soon as there is a shakeup, don’t change your mind and start all over again.

We need consistency.

Next Step:  Determine on a scale of 1-10 how much of an Etch-A-Sketch Parent you are?

  • SPLIT-DECISION PARENTS: OFTEN UNUNIFIED.

These are the parents that are often un-unified.  They disagree.

Amos 3:3  Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? (NIV)

Children who want to get away with something LOVE the Split Decision Parents!

If they don’t like the answer they get from one parent they just go and ask the other one.

They love to pit the parents against each other.

When it comes to discipline and house rules, both husband and wife must have a unified front!

 Next Step:  Determine on a scale of 1-10 how much of a Split – Decision Parent you are?

 PARENTAL EXPECTATIONS

 What should we as parents expect out of our children?  That should be clearly defined.

Our children should also know what we expect out of them.  Here are three things I think we should all expect out of our children.

 

  • WE EXPECT FIRST TIME AND CHEERFUL

Col 3:20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. (NIV)

Not in some things, only the things you want to do, but in everything!

FIRST OBEDIENCE

Sometimes you will ask your children to do something and they will ask “Why”.  They will question you.  Well I think explaining the “Why” to your children is important, but only after they obey first!

This could actually save their lives physically and / or spiritually.

 CHEERFUL OBEDIENCE

Phil 2:14 Do everything without complaining or arguing, (NIV)

Not only do it, but do it without an attitude!

Have you every not asked one of your kids to do something, not because you didn’t think they would do it, you knew they would do it.  But you didn’t want to ask them to do it, because you didn’t want to hear them gripping and complaining as they were doing it!

 

  • Discipline more for attitude than actions.

 

And when the attitude is right, the actions generally follow.

 

  • WE AGREE TO NEVER DISCIPLINE IN ANGER.

 

Eph 4:26  “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, (NIV)

Some of the things our children do will disappoint us, hurt us, and yes and even anger us.  But we must never discipline out or anger.

There are a lot of ways to discipline our children and even though Janet and I rarely had to spank our children, it is a biblical option.  But again it must be ministered in love, not anger.

Prov 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. (NIV)

 Prov 22:15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him. (NIV)

I and my whole generation grew up when it was more than socially acceptable to spank your children and I am not physiologically or emotional damaged.  I can say with confidence that I am better off for it.

Note:  I would encourage you to try to avoid using your hand as much as possible.  1) It will make you slow down and think about what you are doing, do I really need to do this; am I doing this in anger?

  • Your children should see your hand as an instrument of blessing rather than spanking.

 

  • WE WILL DISCIPLINE PROMPTLY WITH INSTRUCTION AND RECONCILIATION.

Eph 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (NIV)

INSTRUCTION

“What did you do wrong?”

“How could you handle it better next time?”

RECONCILIATION

Okay?  You did wrong.  This is the punishment, and now, you are forgiven.  We hug.  We kiss.  We pray.  And we go about our day, never to bring it up again.

And what does that do?

That plants within our child an understanding of what the cross of Jesus Christ is all about.

They start to understand, maybe intuitively at first and then at an even deeper level later on that our sin must be punished, and Jesus took the punishment for our sin.

Once we believe that what He did was enough for us, then God declares us forgiven because justice has been satisfied.  And it teaches our children the principles of God’s divine economy even before they are able to understand, and one day they will be able to say, “Yes, I am saved by grace because Jesus paid the price for me,” and they will not take their salvation for granted, because for the rest of their life, they will be devoted to serving and living for the One who gave His life for them.

Life App Group and Family Devotional Application

  • As a parent, are you more characterized by rescuing, being inconsistent, or being unified?

How can you improve?

  • What is God showing you about discipline? Are you expecting first time, cheerful obedience?

 

  • Do you have an anger problem when disciplining?

 

  • Are you instructing and offering reconciliation?

 

  • What does God need to change in you for you to better discipline your children?

 

 

 

 

 

05-24-15 PROMO

We Love Parents! 

God chose in his infinite wisdom to set up the family structure with the parents in charge.  Parents are responsible for keeping the house in order. Join us Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m. as we discuss the order of families according to the Bible. We like to call it God’s GPS!

Graduates Honored

May 20th, 2015

Graduates of College or High School! 1f393-twitter

 

We want to honor you this Sunday. Join us for one of our morning services so your church family can show you how proud we are of your accomplishment!

Graduates

 

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One Hour on Wednesday is tonight at 7 p.m.!

Join us as we continue verse by verse in Revelation.

EDGE Students will meet in the Pavilion and Believing Kids and Promise Land will meet in the church building for lots of fun!

See you tonight!

05-17-15 Promo (3)

“I said, ‘Okay, one day I’m going to fix this problem.”

Lale Labuko, a tall, handsome 32-year-old (though he doesn’t know his exact birth date) with an acute intelligence, grew up in the village of Dus along the Omo River.  He is a member of Kara, a tribe of about 3,000, but he had no idea about his people’s dark secret until he was a teenager.  Lale’s Kara tribe participated in the age-old ritual called “mingi.”

Mingi — a concept so taboo that the word is rarely spoken aloud in the Omo Valley — is the belief that a baby is “cursed” if it is born out of wedlock or, even more bizarrely, if the child’s top teeth appear before the bottom teeth.

Children declared mingi are thought to bring drought, famine or disease to the tribe — so they are killed. Helpless infants are drowned in the Omo River, left to die in the bush, or suffocated — their mouths filled with soil to stop them from breathing.labuko-family 2 (3)

Lale also learned he to, had two older sisters that were killed in the mingi practice.  Heart broken, He recalls saying to himself, “‘I’m here for some reason.  This is bad.  This is unacceptable.  But these people are not bad.’  I said, ‘Okay, one day I’m going to fix this problem.'”

Believing that he might one day change hundreds of years of tradition set Labuko on a collision course with his tribe.

Do you see things in your world that aren’t right?  Are you going to something about it?  Lale did.

Come join us this Sunday, May 17th, at Believers Church, 9 and 11 a.m., and be encouraged as you hear Lale tell his story of going against the odds to do what God had placed in his heart do.  With your help, prayers, and support, Lale has rescused 37 children from death and stopped the mingi practice in his tribe!

For More Info: www.omochild.com

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THE MESSIANIC WARRIOR COMES!

It is more pleasant to think of heaven than hell; of Jesus as the Lamb of God who takes our sin than of the warrior Jesus who judges the world in righteousness.

But both parts of the Revelation are biblical, and both are to be believed and taught.

Humanity has a choice about how it will meet Jesus.  They will meet him one way or the other.

Tonight we will see Jesus’ return to the earth as the Messianic Warrior who defeats the Antichrist and his allies and throws the Antichrist and the False Prophet into the Lake of Fire!

But let me ask you this:

  • Who will be riding with Jesus as his conquering army?
  • What are you and I to know as we wait for Jesus’ glorious return?

Join us tonight for One Hour On Wednesday for the answer to these questions and more!

Newcomers Lunch 5.17.15

May 12th, 2015

Newcomers Lunch

Want to find out more about Believers? This lunch is for you. You will find out how Believers got started and what our vision is for the future. We hope you will join us this Sunday after the 11 a.m. service. Call the church to RSVP, 912.681.1440.

I Heart MOM

I ❤ Mom   Sermon Notes Believers Statesboro 5-10-15

During this I Heart Series we will look at some biblical principles of parenting.  So on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day we won’t have specific sermons, “this is for mom” or “this one is for Dad.”  But we will look at teaming together, mom and dad, to raise Godly Children.

The Three T’s of Parenting

Mark 10:13-16 People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14 When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 15 I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” 16 And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them. (NIV)

Within this text of Jesus hanging out with children we see the Three T’s of Parenting.

Touch, Time, and Talk.  Now don’t check out on me if you don’t have children or if your children are grown and out the house, because these principals are community and relational principals as well, that should be applied with anyone that you care about.

 

  • LOVING TOUCH.

 

People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch themMark 10:13

 

They brought their children so he could do what to them?  TOUCH THEM.  (Say it with me.)

 

It was a biblical principal first, which has now been confirmed by modern research; loving and appropriate touch communicates and increases a sense of unconditional love and acceptance; especially to a child.

So why were they bringing their children to Jesus so that He could touch them?

Because there is power in loving, appropriate touch.

Greek for touch – haptomai (hap’-tom-ahee); to attach oneself to, embrace or touch.

 

In the Thirteenth Century, there was this unusual king named King Frederick II that tried an awful experiment.  He was curious, what language would a child speak if that child was never; ever spoken to from the time he or she was born?

So he had fifty babies brought into his laboratory and he had some ladies agree to take care of these fifty little infants, but the only agreement was, they were not allowed to speak to these babies and they were not allowed to show affection or emotion in anyway.  They could just feed the baby; change the diapers … no googagaga.  Nothing affectionate toward the babies.

Well, the experiment failed because all fifty babies within a year died.  Now, why did they die?  Not because they were lacking physical nourishment, but most would argue because they were lacking emotional and relational nourishment.  They didn’t have the touch that was so important to them.

I’m curious, how many of you here today would say that you are kind of naturally expressive with touch?  You are what we call a touchy, feely person?  You like to hug and kiss, etc.  Hands up if you are.

Ok how many of you would say that you are more reserved.  Just not a real huggy person.  You are not touchy, feely.  Hands up.

No matter what category you fall into, when it comes to our children we need to touch!

And wherever he went-into villages, towns or countryside-they placed the sick in the marketplaces.  They begged him to let them touch even the edge of his cloak, and all who touched him were healed.  Mark 6:56

In the New International Version, and the word touched appears in the Gospels twenty times in regard to Jesus.  And most of the time when the word touched appears in reference to Jesus, it always is in regards to healing.  There’s power in loving and appropriate touch.

 

  • Need for appropriate touch dramatically increases for girls during preteen years.

 

Isn’t it odd that right when a girl’s need for appropriate touch increases is right about the time that we stop touching them?  There need increase, but our comfort level often decreases.  Especially for men.

Not because we don’t love them, but we are just a little uncomfortable, especially in our modern society.

Dads it’s during their time of increased need that we must be fully engaged in loving and appropriate touch.  Dads it’s the most important thing you can do to deter sexual sin in your young girls.  Because through you they will learn to be touched appropriately by a person that loves them, and they will learn to say no to inappropriate touch that comes from an ungodly person.

Moms you help dad with this.  You need to be lovingly touching you children too, do it with dad!  Let you children sense that unconditional love and acceptance coming from both of you!

 

  • Girls are touched in loving appropriate ways five times as often as boys.

 

Well one of the reasons for this is even though you use to kiss all over you son and hug him tight, all of a sudden one day he declares, “Mom that’s not cool!”  “Especially in front of my friends!”

So as parents we have to creatively work around the “cool factor” to make sure that we are still lovingly engaging in loving appropriate touch to our boys as well.  Wrestle!  Skin their heads! Fist pump! Rough those boys up with some loving touch!

 

  • Boys need loving touch just as much as girls.

 

Both boys and girls need it and it’s something that is within you to give.

On a side note, loving touch is very important in our marriage too!  Both husband and wife need it.  And men you need to learn how to touch your wife in loving ways, without an end goal in mind.

For example, holding her hand as you watch a movie together is a good way to show loving touch. It’s ok to just go to First Base, without trying to hit a Home Run every time!

Next Step:  This week I will discuss with my spouse appropriate ways we can exercise loving touch with our children.

 

  • ABUNDANT TIME.

 

Mark 10:13-14 People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14 When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.

 

“How do kids spell love?”  “Kids spell love t-i-m-e.”  Abundant time.

Let’s face it; it’s true for all of us.  When people spend time with us it sends us a signal that they like us and probably love us!

Our children need both quality and quantity time.

Quality time.  I’ve got to spend enough time with my children that I can see them and study them and know them to such a degree I can coach them and applaud them and challenge them and give them opportunities to be their best.

“To be an effective parent, you must let your children know what you expect from them, and then you must be close enough to the action to be able to regularly inspect their work.” Zig Ziglar

But if we’re plowing through life, going and going, over stimulated and overcommitted and overdone and over the top, we won’t spend enough time with our children!

You say, “I don’t have time.”  No, you have time for what you choose.

But you are a good person and you really care, and so in your heart you say, “Well, I’m going to, but just in a little while.”

  • First, I have to get some things done.
  • First, I have to graduate and get my degree, and then I can make more money, and then spend more time with my kids, and so in just a little while we will get there.”
  • First, I need to work just a little bit extra so I can pay off this credit card so I won’t be strangling in this debt,” but you know in a little while, “I’m going to get there.”
  • “I need to work a little harder so maybe I will get this promotion at work, but probably around the holidays I will be able to spend a little more time with my kids.”

Let me tell you right now, if you don’t decide to do it now, you are not likely to do it.

What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. James 4:14

 On another side note:  We’ve got to have enough time that we can build in time for God.

  • He’s got to be number one.
  • For our spouse, number two.
  • And for our kids, number three. That’s ORDER in the Home, God’s GPS.

Next Step:  This week I will look at my schedule and carve out more time for my children because I make time for what is important to me.

 

  • ENCOURAGING TALK.

 

Mark 10:16 And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them. (NIV)

Encouraging talk – He blessed them!  I wonder what Jesus talked to the children about?  Whatever it was it was encouraging to them and it blessed them!

I’m pretty sure Jesus didn’t say:

“Hey, stop that!  Hey, cut that out!   Hey, stop touching your brother.  Stop hitting back there.  I wish you’d be more like your sister.”  He blessed them, encouraged them.

Now as a parent you know all too well that those words of discipline and correction are important and must be spoken.  All I’m saying here is to make sure that you offset those words with plenty of words of life!

One of the most important things that we can do for our children is to speak words of life, rather than the words of death.  Watch the words that you speak.

 

  • One of the best ways to start meaningful discussions is to ask open ended questions.

 

Spend time talking and listening.  Have meaningful conversations with them.  (Both talking and listening.)

It’s easy to see when you child is messing up or doing something wrong.  Let me encourage you to spend as much time catching them doing something right as you do catching them doing something wrong.

Did you know that in scripture there are two times recorded in scripture that the audible voice of God speaks to Jesus, or about Jesus?  It was right after His water baptism and baptism in the Holy Spirit experience and at Jesus’ transfiguration.

Matt 3:17 And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.” (NIV)

 Mark 9:7 Then a cloud appeared and enveloped them, and a voice came from the cloud: “This is my Son, whom I love. Listen to him!” (NIV)

Father God, spoke encouraging, affirming words to Jesus, about Jesus.

Next Step:  Following Father God’s example, I will take time this week to tell my children that I love them and I am very pleased with them.

 On this Mother’s day, moms, dads, parents you’ve got one chance at this.  Implement the Three T’s of Parenting, Touch, Time, and Talk.  They grow up way too fast!

 Life App Group and Family Devotional Application

 

1)  How were you raised? Did your parents excel in spending time with you, loving touch, or encouraging talk?

 

2) Think about your relationships. If you are a parent, define where you can improve.

Time? Talk? Touch? If you do not have children, answer the previous question regarding other important relationships.

I Heart MOM

This Sunday we kick off our “I ❤ SERIES” where we will look at biblical principles surrounding parenting. We will begin on Mother’s Day looking at how Mom and Dad can team together to raise Godly Children! We begin in Mark 10:13-16 where we learn the “Three T’s of Parenting.”

13   People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14 When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 15 I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” 16  And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them. (NIV)

Join us to this Mothers Day at 9 or 11 a.m. as we learn from Jesus’ example how we can raise Godly Children.