Life doesn’t always go the way we expected. You pray with faith, but God doesn’t do what you asked. You seek Him, but don’t feel His presence. You’re going through pain, but your cries for relief seem to go unanswered. What do you do When God Doesn’t Make Sense?  

Join us Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m. as we being our new series, When God Doesn’t make Sense.

Praise & Worship Tonight!

June 28th, 2017

You are invited to join us tonight for a very special Praise & Worship One Hour on Wednesday!

Join us at 7 pm!

 

This Sunday at Believers Church we will continue our discussion on the ideal family, this week focusing on the “Ideal Teenager.” Join us this Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m. for a question and answer session with our EDGE Youth Ministry Leaders, Chris Hagan and Cindy Muhmel.

Fresh back from the Forward Youth Conference in Atlanta, they will share what they learned and how to Deal with your Teenager!

 

Ideal Father?

As a Father, you are expected to be the spiritual leader of your home.  You are criticized if your children don’t meet everyone else’s expectations.  And you dread a Father’s Day sermon, because it’s usually a “you stinking guys” sermon telling you that you aren’t doing anything right!

This Sunday is Father’s Day and we want to encourage you. So, you can just relax.  Because there really is no such thing as an ideal family, ideal marriage, ideal teenagers, ideal children or an ideal father.

Join us Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m.,  as Pastor Scott shares with us some of his failures and successes as a Father and how he learned to partner with the ultimate Father, Father God who wants the best for you and your family.

 

 

Why is it so hard for men and women to communicate?

Maybe there is a gap between what is being said and what is heard.

Do you have an ideal family?  Or are you like the rest of us who find ourselves asking, “How do I deal with my real family?”  If so, communication is essential!

When dealing with your real family you can be sure about one thing and that is; You will never have an ideal family if you don’t learn to communicate.  Ideal Communication is the key to all relationships!

Join us this Sunday at 9 or 11 a.m. for some laughter as we talk about the differences in the way Men and Women Communicate and learn to communicate better as Pastor Scott shares with us some Communication Strategies for An Ideal Family!

 

 

Baby Dedication 06.18.17

June 7th, 2017

If you would like to have your baby dedicated on Father’s Day, please sign up Sunday on your Communication Card, or call the church at 912.681.1440.

ideal family  “Ideal Marriage”  Believers Statesboro 06-04-17

Do you have an ideal family, or are you like the rest of us who find ourselves asking, “How do I deal with my real family?”             There really is no such thing as an ideal family, ideal marriage, ideal teenagers, or ideal children, but there is hope!  There is a real Jesus, for your real family! Today we want to talk about the “Ideal Marriage”.  Anybody have one?

In an Ideal Marriage, Jesus Must Be Number One

Right before I married Janet, I told her, “Janet, I love you but you are always going to be number two in my life, because Jesus is always going to be number one.”  Janet, just looked back at me with confidence and said, “That’s ok, Scott, you will always be number two in my life as well, because Jesus will always be number one.”  Marriage is second in our GPS – God’s Positioning System for the family, because to have a good marriage, God must come first!

Ephesians 5:1-2 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Submit to One Another For an Ideal Marriage

Ephesians 5:21  Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 

Submitting to one another: This is not something that we can demand out of one another.

Submission is built on love and trust.

Submit, hupotasso.  The verb to submit translates a Greek term with a military background.

  • To submit is to accept the authority structure in which you are placed.
  • Submission involves subordinating personal interest for the well-being of the larger unit.[i]

Amos 3:3  Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?

There is a four-letter word that hurts our marriages and hinders mutual submission and it’s spelled,

S-E-L-F.  We have the most trouble with S-E-L-F.  Selfishness causes most marital conflicts.

We can conquer “self” only by the power of covenant love, and dying to our old selfish nature.

Are you unselfish?  Are you selfless in your marriage?  Do you think about yourself less?

Have you taken that walk of death?  Have you died to yourself?

Jesus is the ultimate expression of love.  He is the ultimate expression of unselfishness.  That’s why Jesus must be the center of our marriages.  I must be surrendered to Christ Jesus first.

Submit to one another in the fear of God.  Not in the fear of each other.

Do it out of fear and respect for His divine order.  Ephesians 5:22-23 builds on this concept of mutual submission within the marriage.  (In other words, “How do we submit to each other?”)

How Wives Do Their Part

Ephesians 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

Not that he is the Lord, but submit to him in the same way that you have learned to submit to the Lord.

This is made easy when the husband loves the wife like Christ loves the church (vs. 25).

  • Is it hard to submit to a Jesus who loves you unconditionally, laid down His life for you unto death, has adopted you into His family, prepared a place for you in heaven, and allows you to experience abundant life here on this earth?  Not at all!
  • Now the husband will not be able to do everything that Jesus did, but he must demonstrate that same attitude of love and self-sacrifice towards his wife. 

God’s Divine Order

Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

  • Two people can be equally qualified for a job, but one must lead.
  • That doesn’t mean that one is better or more loved than the other.
    • Oftentimes ladies may wish that they were the one chosen to lead.
    • Many times, men wish that they didn’t have that awesome responsibility.
  • But for God’s order and peace to rule in a family, each must fulfill the roles that they are called to. (Mutual Submission)

The Bible does not put males over females, but it does call for husbands to accept responsible leadership in the same spirit of self-giving and devotion Christ has shown for His church.

Women are never made second to men in general, but the wife is specifically called to accept her husband’s leadership.  These verses put such demands upon the Christian husband that it is impossible to see how a charge of male chauvinism could justly be made against the Bible, or how a license to exploit women or wives could ever be claimed from such texts.[ii]

How Husbands Do Their Part

Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives (a direct command), just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

  • What a standard for a husband to meet. Love your wife the same way that Christ loves the church.

Not only are you to love her, but as the spiritual leader of the home, you have a responsibility for her spiritual welfare.

  • Just as Christ is washing and cleaning the church with the Word, the husband should be praying for his wife, sharing the Word of God with her, speaking the Word of God over her life, and imparting blessings into her life.

Ephesians 5:28  this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

If verses 22-27 are too hard for husbands to understand, Paul gives husbands an explanation that every man can understand.  Husbands love your wives as you love yourself, your own body!

Ephesians 5:29  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—   Nourish her.  Cherish her.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22

“My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.”

Winston Churchill

In Verses 30-32 Paul begins to relate the husband and wife relationship to the oneness of Christ and the Church, which he says is ‘a great mystery’ within itself (32).

Leave and Be United for An Ideal Marriage

Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” (Quoting Genesis 2:24)

The great mystery in marriage is that two people come together as one.

For this oneness to occur there must be a leaving first!  Many marriages are in trouble today because there has never been a real breaking away from both sets of parents.

  • As we will see in Eph. 6, children are to be subject to their parents.
    • Prior to marriage both the man and woman are under the order and rule of their parents.  Marriage is a transition away from this.
    • You leave them, join with your mate, and begin to submit to one another.
    • You will always honor, love, and respect your parents, but you are now following God’s divine order for your marriage and subsequent family.

Parents must release their children into God’s divine plan for them.

  • To try to rule the lives of your married children will only hinder God’s work within them.
  • It is acceptable and encouraged to give Godly advice, share wisdom from experience, help when needed, pray for, and bless your married children. It is not acceptable to expect them to obey and answer to you as the spiritual authority in their lives.

Ideal Oneness Reflects the Image of God

Genesis 1: 27  So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them;

male and female he created them.  The characteristics of God are seen in both male and female.  Together we reflect the image of God to the world.

Author Larry Crabb says, “The goal of oneness can be almost frightening when we realize that God does not intend that my wife and I find our personal needs met in marriage.  God wants our relationship to validate the claims of Christianity to a watching world.  He wants marriage to act as an example of Christ’s redeeming love, overcoming the divisive effects of sin.

The world is dying to see true, authentic, marriages.  They want to see it in your marriage and mine.

If we are one flesh, one body, we should strive to nurture that body to good health!

  • Hurting your mate only hurts you.  Depriving your mate deprives yourself.  Mistreating your mate is mistreating yourself.  Winning over your mate is winning over yourself and losing.

The Power of Oneness In An Ideal Marriage

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.  But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

The Love Triangle

You will never have an ideal marriage or anything that resembles one, if Jesus isn’t the center of your life and the center of your marriage.

  • If my marriage is to reflect the image of God to the world, it only makes sense that my personal goal should be to be transformed into the image of God.
  • I want to be like Jesus!

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate,  but through being the right mate.” Barnett Brickner (A God Chaser)

NEXT LIFE STEP:  This week I will determine to keep Jesus as the center of my life and continue to be transformed into the image of Jesus.  Jesus first!

Love and Respect

Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Husbands love your wives, if she deserves it or not.  Demonstrate God’s unconditional love.

“A person needs to be loved the most when he or she deserves to be loved the least” Unknown

Wives, just as the husband is commanded in scripture to love his wife, so is the wife commanded to respect her husband.

  • Does this mean respect your husband if he deserves it?  Does it mean to only respect your husband if he loves you 100 percent like Christ loves the Church?  Or should you give him proportional respect.  Tit for tat.  “I’ll respect him only as much as he loves me?”

Men need to feel that they are respected.

  • They will go to great lengths to earn the respect of fellow co-workers, acquaintances, and friends.  As the old saying goes, “Respect is not given it is something that you earn”. Right? Not so in a Godly marriage.
  • Wives are called to respect there husbands unconditionally, just like husband are called to love their wives unconditionally.
  • A husband should never have to earn the respect of his wife.  She should give it freely.

“The key to an ideal marriage is not expecting perfection.” Unknown

Couples, if you give love you will receive love.  If you give respect you will receive respect in return.

If you sacrifice and lay down your life for your mate the same will be done for you.  Life breeds life!

NEXT LIFE STEP:  This week I will take the Ideal Family Test and begin to work on areas that need improvement. 

Life App Group and Family Devotional Application

  1. In your own words, explain mutual submission in marriage. How do you make that happen?
  2. In marriage, couples are united as one. Why is the leaving part essential for that to happen?
  3. How do marriages reflect the image of God? How is your marriage reflecting the true image of God?
  4. Explain the Love Triangle that Pastor Scott talked about. How will that bring a couple closer?
  5. What is the best marriage advice that you can give to newlyweds that will help them in their marriage?

 

[i] Prisoner of Joy (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers.)

[ii] Spirit-Filled Life Bible (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1991), 1795, notes on 5:22, 23, 24-33.

 

If the divorce rate among Christian Couples is about the same or a little less than the national divorce rate, it stands to reason that we might want to change the way we are doing things.

We want to not only make decisions that lead to life personally, but we want to make decisions that lead to life for our marriages and families as well (John 10:10).
“Ideal Marriage”, anybody have one? Or are you joining us in saying, “I deal with my real marriage!”
Join us this Sundaay at 9 or 11 a.m. as we continue our “ideal family” series.